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To think people on benefits can’t win

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Flamingosareflummoxed · 21/05/2026 07:35

I’ve heard so many people this week, in real life, moaning about people on benefits. I get it that we are all struggling. The cost of living is crippling.
But every week there are posts on here from women who were in 70K per year HR positions who are finding it difficult to get interviews for MW jobs.
There are no jobs.
The few jobs that there are will be flooded with applications, why would recruiters chose someone who has been unemployed for years?
Plus all those with long term disabilities who need reasonable adjustments.
Its like people want to bash people knowing there is no real alternative.

OP posts:
HobGobblynne · 21/05/2026 11:53

Sartre · 21/05/2026 11:51

Yep I understand! I’m not saying the mobility scheme is a bad thing, I get why people need it but I felt it important to highlight the fact some do indeed get a free car because someone else claimed this wasn’t true.

It's still not free...you're exchanging your PIP allowance for it...

GasPanic · 21/05/2026 11:53

I mean maybe the point has been missed that you aren't supposed to "win" on benefits.

I'd actually like further classification of benefits into 3 types of recipient.

a) People who can work, but are not working and don't want to work. These people often have benefits and supplement their income via other activities such as cash in hand jobs and crime.

b) People who can't work.

c) People who have recently lost work and are seeking new work.

If we stop lumping together all these categories as "on benefits" we might get some better resolution of the deserving and less deserving.

Meadowfinch · 21/05/2026 11:55

Zov · 21/05/2026 11:44

Exactly!

So now some people think that other people get free cars as well as free houses? 😆

Honestly, the lack of knowledge, (and ignorance) from some, is breathtaking!

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Edited

But grants are available for people on low incomes meaning some people do not have to pay for their car, apart from their pip allowance.

x2boys · 21/05/2026 11:59

FlowerSticker · 21/05/2026 10:43

I'll guarantee I can find plenty of jobs for him to apply for...

whether he wants those jobs is another matter....

He will take anything .

LakieLady · 21/05/2026 12:00

Zov · 21/05/2026 11:42

@SatsumaDog I don't think people who have been on benefits for some years (say, 10+) can pick and choose what kind of job they want. What makes you think/say that?

You're perfectly correct, @Zov . People who are on benefits purely because they are unemployed, ie not because of ill-health, low income, or caring responsibilities, are expected to look for work. DWP work coaches will expect them to apply for a certain number of jobs every month, and to produce evidence of job-seeking.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/05/2026 12:05

If that's the solution then we need to be actively promoting immigration to fill the gap that we are already heading towards by people in general having less children.
We are heading towards a point where we are going to struggle anyway without a sizeable next generation coming behind us and the dialogue around immigration is going to compound that.

No because if we bring people in to do the low paid jobs they will need to be subsidised with benefits plus benefits will still be being paid to British people who could be doing the jobs. I agree that we should welcome skilled immigrants doing well paid jobs but we cannot afford to increase the population of people needing support.

People quite often quote the Scandi countries as having got the balance of working and benefit support right, forgetting that they have far smaller populations and a greater sense of social cohesion and fairness (I'm sure that not everything is rosy but they must benefit from the above). I don't think that's true in the UK.

It doesn't help that absent tosser fathers parents get away with paying basically fuck all support for their children. Maybe men would be less keen on having children if they knew that they would actually have to financially support them, especially if they had to pay even if they were living on benefits.

FernFaery · 21/05/2026 12:06

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/05/2026 12:05

If that's the solution then we need to be actively promoting immigration to fill the gap that we are already heading towards by people in general having less children.
We are heading towards a point where we are going to struggle anyway without a sizeable next generation coming behind us and the dialogue around immigration is going to compound that.

No because if we bring people in to do the low paid jobs they will need to be subsidised with benefits plus benefits will still be being paid to British people who could be doing the jobs. I agree that we should welcome skilled immigrants doing well paid jobs but we cannot afford to increase the population of people needing support.

People quite often quote the Scandi countries as having got the balance of working and benefit support right, forgetting that they have far smaller populations and a greater sense of social cohesion and fairness (I'm sure that not everything is rosy but they must benefit from the above). I don't think that's true in the UK.

It doesn't help that absent tosser fathers parents get away with paying basically fuck all support for their children. Maybe men would be less keen on having children if they knew that they would actually have to financially support them, especially if they had to pay even if they were living on benefits.

But posters on here fight tooth and nail for their benefits NOT to be changed by the payment of CMS

HobGobblynne · 21/05/2026 12:08

FernFaery · 21/05/2026 12:06

But posters on here fight tooth and nail for their benefits NOT to be changed by the payment of CMS

Probably because payment of CMS isn't guaranteed and rarely enforced. If the system changed to guarantee that the correct money ended up in the pocket of the RP, then I don't think people would be adverse to changing things.

RubyPowderPuff · 21/05/2026 12:10

LakieLady · 21/05/2026 12:00

You're perfectly correct, @Zov . People who are on benefits purely because they are unemployed, ie not because of ill-health, low income, or caring responsibilities, are expected to look for work. DWP work coaches will expect them to apply for a certain number of jobs every month, and to produce evidence of job-seeking.

... and then they go for interviews and present themselves as unsuitable. So the cycle continues.

FernFaery · 21/05/2026 12:11

MidnightMeltdown · 21/05/2026 11:35

I do wonder what these people plan to do once their kids are older and they lose the child related benefits. Nobody will want to employ someone who has been out of the workforce for nearly 2 decades.

At least if they are in work they have a chance to gain and maintain skills, and potentially work their way up. They are setting the up for destitution.

UC, PIP and carers allowance.

themoirarosee · 21/05/2026 12:11

It’s the ‘there’s loads of jobs’ that gets to me. Sure there is but you can’t just do any job.

I’ve just lost my job (no fault of my own!) and I’m looking for new work. The barrier I keep coming up against time and time again is timings. I’m beholden to the hours in between breakfast and afterschool club. I’m a single mum of 3 kids and I also don’t drive. Making it really hard to find work I can actually do. Everyone seems to also want weekend availability, I don’t have that either.

It’s a struggle and it’s causing a lot of stress.

I also just don’t understand how people survive on benefits? I’m not and money is so tight. I don’t understand how they have any disposable income?

x2boys · 21/05/2026 12:11

Sartre · 21/05/2026 11:45

That’s because you selected a car above the amount covered under the scheme.

Some people will have to if the car needs adaptions etc
We have a mobolity car for my don his second
Becsise he qualified due to severe mental impairment
We didnt need adapaptions
We also happy to to pick a car that didnt require a deposit( very limitrd choice )

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/05/2026 12:12

But posters on here fight tooth and nail for their benefits NOT to be changed by the payment of CMS

I think it's more that they don't trust their ex to actually pay the CMS. As I recall CMS used to alter the amount of benefit you got but the exes were so crap at paying what they should that it was easier to take it out of the calculations. It seems mad to me, I think the CMS should just use the powers that it has and actually pursue the fathers properly.

Boudy · 21/05/2026 12:15

@x2boys ..so sorry. I have a 26 and 19 year old both of them applying for all sorts. The 26 year old also has a 'good' degree. It is really really crap.

Sartre · 21/05/2026 12:16

HobGobblynne · 21/05/2026 11:53

It's still not free...you're exchanging your PIP allowance for it...

Only the mobility component which is £80 a week. It would likely cost more than that if they got the same car on finance and had to pay tax, insurance, any repairs etc.

Anyway, beside the by, I wasn’t arguing against the cars because I’m not an animal. Just highlighting the fact they are technically “free” for some people.

HobGobblynne · 21/05/2026 12:17

FernFaery · 21/05/2026 12:11

UC, PIP and carers allowance.

But they only get those things if they qualify for them don't they.

I thought the point people were making was that perfectly able people were making a career out of not working? So when their children are grown up...what will they be entitled to? Certainly not enough to live on.

Sartre · 21/05/2026 12:19

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/05/2026 12:12

But posters on here fight tooth and nail for their benefits NOT to be changed by the payment of CMS

I think it's more that they don't trust their ex to actually pay the CMS. As I recall CMS used to alter the amount of benefit you got but the exes were so crap at paying what they should that it was easier to take it out of the calculations. It seems mad to me, I think the CMS should just use the powers that it has and actually pursue the fathers properly.

They can through direct pay but it only works if the dad is employed. It falls apart when they’re self-employed or unemployed. They do take a nominal amount from benefits but I think it’s like a fiver a week so basically pointless. We’ve all heard of the men who work cash in hand to avoid paying it.

HobGobblynne · 21/05/2026 12:20

Sartre · 21/05/2026 12:16

Only the mobility component which is £80 a week. It would likely cost more than that if they got the same car on finance and had to pay tax, insurance, any repairs etc.

Anyway, beside the by, I wasn’t arguing against the cars because I’m not an animal. Just highlighting the fact they are technically “free” for some people.

I guess we just disagree on what free means. I don't see anything bought with 'benefit' money as free.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/05/2026 12:22

We’ve all heard of the men who work cash in hand to avoid paying it.

Yes but most of MN seems to have no issue with that when it's their cleaner/window cleaner/gardener/builder etc.......

PetulaDark · 21/05/2026 12:27

GasPanic · 21/05/2026 11:53

I mean maybe the point has been missed that you aren't supposed to "win" on benefits.

I'd actually like further classification of benefits into 3 types of recipient.

a) People who can work, but are not working and don't want to work. These people often have benefits and supplement their income via other activities such as cash in hand jobs and crime.

b) People who can't work.

c) People who have recently lost work and are seeking new work.

If we stop lumping together all these categories as "on benefits" we might get some better resolution of the deserving and less deserving.

Maybe you could add another category:
d) people whose disability means they cannot work without incurring large additional costs on transport, equipment, other help but who DO work and need benefits to support them to do so.
I fall into this category as do many others - PIP is not an out-of-work benefit.

PorcupineOnline · 21/05/2026 12:29

Got to LOL at the people saying there are jobs! Yes there are and about 100+ people applying for every vacancy. The problems with the job market mean that lots of people who are in higher paying jobs, are struggling to find those roles at the moment and are taking NMW roles to keep a roof over their heads which mean people who usually get those jobs are struggling massively to find employment. I also think there are HUGE regional differences in employment environments and availability. What is happening in one area isn't necessarily the case in another. I know a lot of young people who are unable to find paid employment at the moment because competition is so intense and they are not fussy about the roles they are applying for, have previous retail experience etc. Its not a fun environment to be looking for work at the mo!

emuloc · 21/05/2026 12:37

Lavender14 · 21/05/2026 11:14

And for those that can't? What happens to them?

How are you suggesting we deal with the knock on impacts of increased crime? Increased demand on healthcare (though reform are totally keen for that to be privatised anyway) ? the impact of more children going into care as they're living in poverty? The knock on impact on education? The rise in homelessness?

Our core services are on their knees. The idea that reform are going to cut benefits and that will fix it is incredibly short sighted as its going to generate more complex issues that will be more expensive to fix as the services affected are already at breaking point. Farage was a key supporter for brexit and brexit is one of the main reasons why we have such a back log for asylum claims (this is why asylum rates have risen so much in recent years because people are no longer moving through the system) and why there has been a rise in small boats (being in the eu meant we could see if someone had applied and been denied elsewhere and return them). He promised more money for the NHS and the next day was on the telly saying "I never said that". He has cost us so much to date from the public purse so the idea that anyone thinks this is the man to fix it is utterly beyond me. He'd sell his own granny to get himself ahead and that's what he's doing, he's very cleverly playing us all against each other to position himself as a 'leader' rather than recognising that he's been very instrumental in getting us into the shit we're currently in. I don't understand why other people cannot seem to see this?!

Well said.

Conversationalcheddar · 21/05/2026 12:39

ThreadGuardDog · 21/05/2026 11:21

Disability benefits aren’t paid for obesity as such, but the underlying conditions which cause them, or are caused by them. Obesity in itself is not a disability under the Equality Act 2010 unless it leads to severe long-term physical or mental impairments that hinder day-to-day activities or participation in the workplace. Obesity caused by underlying conditions such as impaired mobility etc, would qualify by the underlying condition, not the obesity itself.

There was talk at one time that disability/sickness benefits paid in respect of obesity would be time limited and require the claimant to engage in appropriate weight loss/fitness programmes to continue to be eligible. These programmes are offered but benefits don’t seem to be conditional on participation.

Motability is always brought up on these threads, and referred to as ‘free cars’ because people generally don’t understand how the scheme works, who benefits or that the car is not ‘free’. As far as the poster you quoted is concerned their MiL is unlikely to qualify for the higher rate mobility component necessary to access the scheme unless her obesity linked medical conditions are severe.

I worked in disability benefits and as an outreach worker for disabled people for over twenty years, and I find the attitude of posters towards disability benefits really odd. Everyone knows someone who is apparently cheating and quite prepared to admit it to anyone who asks. Posters seem to consider themselves qualified to decide whether someone is worthy of claiming, despite no medical experience or qualifications and not a shred of understanding of how these benefits work, and seem to consider the DWP assessors who actually are qualified, incapable of the decision making with which they are charged. You just don’t come across this in real life.

Edited

Oh I’m not saying I think MIL is getting a free luxury car. I’m saying SHE thinks that. I’ve looked into it and it looks like she can get a mobility-adapted car. Which would be appropriate. Looks like Nissan do some good ones that come under the scheme. It seems that even people who receive the benefits have been misinformed and continue a narrative about people on benefits living in “free luxury”.

LakieLady · 21/05/2026 12:39

themoirarosee · 21/05/2026 12:11

It’s the ‘there’s loads of jobs’ that gets to me. Sure there is but you can’t just do any job.

I’ve just lost my job (no fault of my own!) and I’m looking for new work. The barrier I keep coming up against time and time again is timings. I’m beholden to the hours in between breakfast and afterschool club. I’m a single mum of 3 kids and I also don’t drive. Making it really hard to find work I can actually do. Everyone seems to also want weekend availability, I don’t have that either.

It’s a struggle and it’s causing a lot of stress.

I also just don’t understand how people survive on benefits? I’m not and money is so tight. I don’t understand how they have any disposable income?

I agree it's really hard, especially if you don't drive. The only thing that really springs to mind is a TA job in a school.

My local Tesco used to have loads of women in their 30s/early 40s working there, but now it's mostly older people or people who appear to be student age (the latter especially in the late afternoon or evening).

Mind you, now that most of the staffed checkouts have been replaced with self-service ones (aka "scab tills"), there's nowhere near as many people working there at all.

emuloc · 21/05/2026 12:43

ThreadGuardDog · 21/05/2026 11:23

Absolutely this. Divide and rule is alive and well regardless of the colour of government.

As it always has been, keep the poor fighting for scraps, whilst the rich live off the cream of the land.