Secrets and lies from the whole family.

[horselover1987]

My partner has given his brother some money to help out with some bills etc, and has told his sister that money in which he will receive is from sky, which he’s not and he hasn’t the whole truth about it, what should I do? Do I keep quiet or not, because I’m worried in case it ruins my friendship with his brother. Bare in mind thi isn’t the first lie has has told people.. and a lot of people are saying to me to get rid of him as he is bad news. I’m looking for advice on what to do in my current situation, been with him for nearly six years.

I have questions.

1. what does his sister have to do with it?
2. why is he lying about the money?
3. what else is he lying about?
4. why do people think he is bad news, and what has that got to do with him giving money to his brother?

So he's given his brother some money to help him out, and his brother has told people it's from Sky (the TV people?!)? How does that work?

Anyway, I don't really see why it bothers you.

This is garbled. I don’t understand what the issue is?

I’m not entirely sure I follow but do you mean your partner has given his brother some money and his brother has told people the money is from elsewhere? Sky as in a refund from Sky tv?

Why are you so upset about this? He’s likely embarrassed he’s had to borrow money?

I don’t understand all the lying, if he wants to give his brother money why does he feel the need to explain it?
Why is he bad news?

Sky the TV people or from the sky? Like it’s raining £20 notes. I’m confused.

Are there some words missing in your post-I don’t understand what the issue is?

Why does the sister need to be involved at all

Is Sky a person? It's not his sister's business if he gives his brother money. I wouldn't have mentioned it at all, but maybe it's the kind of thing where it wouldn't have gone unnoticed.

If he lies about other things I'd consider breaking up with him, but this feels like a non-issue.

Is the money from criminal activity?

If not, nobody cares and why lie?

The lie in this case is telling his sister the brother’s money has come from Sky Tv?
Why would she even know or care about one brother giving another brother money ?
What are the other lies ?
My first thought would be to keep clear of the whole scenario. You aren’t married , the
people concerned aren’t your in-laws . I’d want to know nothing about it .

No one has to tell everyone everything, if he doesn't want people to know he gave money or the other one got money from him, nothing to do with anyone else.

I once dated someone from a family where every member was chronically incapable of being honest with each other. The lies were one thing, but the secrets were much worse.

Run for the hills. Hopefully you'll never know how much you want to thank me.

Eh?

I cannot make sense of your post.

Your partner has lent his brother money? His brother has told their sister that he got the money from Sky (an odd lie!).

First the transaction is between the brothers and has nothing to do with the sister.

Secondly it is not your place to talk about this with the sister.

I’m sorry I really don’t understand what sky have to do with it?

I think if friends and family, people you like, trust, respect, are telling you he's bad news, you probably should listen.

It sounds as if you’re questioning your relationship and this lie is just one in a long history of lies. I would start to make quiet plans to leave him. You mention wanting to preserve your relationship with your partner’s brother - this might be difficult if his loyalties lie with your partner, so personally I wouldn’t be confiding in anyone in his family.

Why do people tell you he’s bad news?

i have no idea what you’re talking about with regards to Sky etc.

Op, how about you try explaining again?