Changing location of our family gathering to their house

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AIBU to be cross that my husband's aunt has told another member of the extended family the bbq I've arranged to host for his side of the family will be held at theirs (not ours)

I'm the one that had the idea, that has found iut peoples' plans and sorted a date that everyone is available.

The aunt hasnt spoken to my husband or I about offering to host she's just told them they'll be having it at their house.

Never once did the aunt say in the conversation with me/us that's a great idea be lovely to get together but we will host it.

It's just come 3rd hand

Just tell people , no change of plan it's still here don't know how the wires got crossed about location. I'd be happy if someone else hosted and I could just show up though.

The sensible thing to do is speak to the aunt. The other person may have totally misunderstood. Either way, your need to talk to the aunt.

I could not be upset about this. Somebody else does all the hard work and your house stays tidy. What is to get cross about exactly?

Ha, yes me too!

If you do want to host it though, then speak to the people invited and explain the situation.