To think you can’t really be shocked someone no longer wants contact after repeatedly cutting them off?

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I sometimes see threads where the OP abruptly stopped talking to someone years ago, ignored calls/messages, disappeared without explanation, repeatedly drifted in and out of contact or had a pattern of cutting people off and later returning.

…And then later seems genuinely surprised or hurt that the other person no longer wants to engage, trust them or reopen the relationship.

Obviously people are allowed to leave relationships/friendships.

But I do think repeated withdrawal/disappearance can permanently change how safe, valued or emotionally open someone feels towards you.

AIBU?

Yes, I agree with you. I’ve been cut-off recently from a friend I used to meet frequently. Am trying to work up the courage to talk to her about it, but she keeps kicking the ball further away, saying she’s stressed when I know she’s seeing other friends and feel she’s ignoring me.
i just want to talk calmly with her and get some clarity. She does have a temper!! But can be s kind and lovely friend.

In answer to your post, it has made the friendship seem unsafe and am not even sure I want it to continue.