To want to hear from people who are estranged from family but still found love and happiness romantically?

[MyWarmRobin]

I’m British, but culturally from a background where family is everything and people can judge very harshly if you’re estranged or not close to your relatives. Sometimes appearances and “keeping the family together” seem to matter more than the actual harm or dysfunction underneath.

I know this can happen in any culture, including white British families too but I don’t personally know many people from my own background who have chosen estrangement/protection in this way.

I’m a woman in my early 30s and sometimes I wonder whether a healthy, loving relationship and marriage is still realistic for me long-term, especially as I have had men judge me for it before or weaponise it. To be honest, the men who reacted the worst were generally immature and misogynistic anyway, but it still gets in your head after a while.

I’d really like to hear from people (especially from more family/tradition-oriented cultures) who are estranged from family but still went on to find good relationships, marriage, peace, happiness etc.

White British, so I can only talk to some of your question, but yes. Very happy, close, supportive family of choice. I always thought I'd be judged for not having that sort of background, but my in laws (although they drive me goddamn insane) are very lovely and we're very welcoming to their family. I wish you well x

Are you only interested in men from your culture? Or open to any?

Personally I think you've got a great filter for men who think women exist to serve others and don't want a woman who clearly isn't going to tolerate being treated like crap. Don't worry; the right man won't care.