Breast feeding and child seeking comfort

[idontmatter123]

I wasn't able to breastfeed and had troubles with bonding after birth.... Issues with my own low mood.

I was wondering if the lack of breastfeeding and co sleeping is why my toddler isn't as cuddly as other children!?

I'm the sole parent so don't know what it's like

Based on my experience of 2, both BF and cosleeping - one was/is much more tactile and cuddly than the other, reflecting their personalities over all.

One of mine was bf for 2 years the other only 6 weeks. The child fed for 2 years is more cuddly but that could be pure coincidence. Someone told me boys are more cuddly than girls in general but again that could be made up too! I wouldn't fixate on the past. We all do our best, I bf for a long time but I'm not mother of the year, I don't have a lot of patience now my kids are older. I'm sure you are doing a fine job, the fact your child is happy to be left at nursery is great, it sounds like you have a content child.

Bf my third baby now. Eldest two went thright stages where they preferred daddy. As I was the one doing the drudge. But when they sick etc back to me! Healthy attachment is when they go off and play etc 🙂. Very independent toddlers and finally slept. But kids have their own personality bf or combi etc. Sounds like your a little fixated tbh

You said in your opening post you have low mood and didn't bond with baby at birth. A bit strange to claim you're not struggling.

Breastfed both. Co slept with number two, not number one. Number one not cuddly at all but used to cling to me at drop off even at school. Number two very cuddly but walks into nursery without so much as a backward glance. They are just have different personalities and temperaments just like us!