To have called DH out on being so two faced?

[Clopadop]

I am a fully paid up member and supporter of a political party. DH isn’t a member but he is a supporter - we have had many discussions about politics where he has always demonstrated great support for this party, including recording tv interviews with the leader so he can watch them back if he’s at work etc.

Yesterday we went out for lunch with his son who gets on to politics and starts tearing into this party (absolutely fine with this btw) - what got me is DH started joining in agreeing with him, taking the piss out of the leader and agreeing that they are a terrible party and when his son said “I can’t understand anyone who votes for them” DH said “neither can I”!!!

Now, I wasn’t going to get involved but the two faced behaviour was just too much - so I said “but YOU voted for them at the last GE, and the local elections … “ his son burst out laughing - DH looked embarrassed and muttered “no I didn’t!”. I said “well, you told me you did?” He replied “ha well I was joking, of course I didn’t vote for them”.

So I said “oh, ok … weird thing to joke about … but were you also joking last night when you were rewatching (leader) making a speech and going on about how brilliant they were?”

his son said “oh dad, surely not?” DH looked pissed off and said “I wasn’t even watching it, I was on my phone” 🙄 right

I left it there but when we got home I confronted him on it and he said “at least I’m not an actual member like you!” … but I never claimed not to like them!!! 😂😂 he’s now pissed off that I embarrassed him but I don’t think I did anything wrong?? He’s either been lying to me for years or lying to his son? Was I supposed to just sit there quietly whilst he waffled on with what I knew to be a load of bullshit?

Leave political chat for when you get together with your fellow sign up party peers and leave your DH to do his own thing, and being a leaf on the wind re politics is his prerogative

Maybe he just doesn't really care that much about politics. Who would record political leaders speeches and then voluntarily watch them later? Not even a devout member would?

He's not into it in the same way you are clearly. But he sounds like a bit of a mug for going along with you then also going along with his son. He clearly is a people pleaser and it's backfired as he's so blatant!

Grow up

Oh I’d love to see you in full swing during a political discussion @Clopadop !!

Oh dear 😬

Yeah it will be this. Ugh. I have respect for it, and I imagine you do OP. The ultimate ick.

Maybe he takes the happy wife, happy life too far. Is there a statement like that for kids? Happy son, or no fun? Either way, that's why they say either avoid politics discussion, or if it really matters to you, date someone you meet on a political app. More seriously, some people have cut off their parents for disagreeing on political views-not joking, this used to be rare but isn't now, so I'd let it go. Plus people do change their views, so unless it's really important to you that he's a Blue/Red/Green whatever, just ignore it.

From the person insulting someone’s political views despite not actually knowing who they vote for?

This.
He is a dishonest, weak-willed people-pleaser, who would rather lie than have any kind of disagreement.

Now you know.

Please post where I have insulted your l political view?

discussing politics is banned when certain family visitors come to ours because I want to see and enjoy our time together not listen to them all argue about politics. I won't change my mind and neither will they. Perhaps your dp feels the same so just went along with it avoid conflict and enjoy his time with his ds?

did you not mean to imply that I vote for the BNP? Because … call me old fashioned - but I find that pretty insulting

And where do I say this? You have got over excited and misquoted. It was another poster

It doesn't really matter which party it was. OP's point is about two-facedness, not a particular brand of politics.

In your position OP I would not have made such a show of it, but then again in his position I would not have been two-faced. I don't feel the need to agree with everyone; I prefer to represent circumspection. Mind you, I learned this by being in a political party for 20 years before finding that they had left me.

Or just someone who wants an easy life when it comes to the drama fuelled political landscape atm and just goes with the flow.

Very odd behaviour by your husband and odd that his son didn't know his political leanings!

It’s not relevant and will affect some people’s views of OP

OP your DH is daft trying to pull this off

But that doesn’t help you with an easy life in the long run, as OP’s DH discovered.

Poor chap!

It feels like you tried to humiliate him for sport. I'd have asked him later why he did that? And he may have been able to think it through in his own time.

Politics is so disruptive at the moment and very little room for amicable disagreement and he may have just been looking for a way to feel his way through the conversation without alienating his son.

Your DH was obviously trying to save face in front of his son - you undermined that. It was more important to let him build a relationship with his son and find ‘commonality’ even if not fully true than for you to be ‘right’
for example - I hate football and rugby - hate, hate, hate them. And yet I try and talk to my sons about them all the time as a way to engage them in something that they are passionate about. My husband, their dad doesn’t ever blurt out ‘you hate football and think footballers pay is morally repugnant’ because he recognises that I am trying to bond with my child - if I have to fabricate an interest in something I hate, I will do it

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What rubbish - he didn’t need to completely slate the OP in order to avoid ‘alienating his son’. Why not just change the subject or say something vague instead of completely going in on the party you know your wife votes for, and you’ve shown an interest in yourself? It’s cowardly behaviour imo. I also would’ve called my partner out on it then and there.

He was silly for lying, you humiliated him on purpose. Both of you look pretty childish and silly