AIBU to wonder if my indecisiveness and low energy need attention?

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Posting here for traffic as not sure what’s wrong with me, there must be something 😂

I am extremely indecisive about most things. It’s far worse since I became a mother, and worse still in the last couple of months.

From major life decisions, down to smaller ones. Some examples of recent ones include what clothes to order or what type of food to buy in the supermarket, which size pack of berries to buy, and so on. I have put off ordering new pyjamas for my son because I can’t decide if he’s better in PJs or sleepsuits now he is walking. I don’t know how to choose. It’s obviously a trivial decision in the grand scheme of, and either would work fine. Then I think okay, sleepsuits, but is it the footless type or normal? And then I can’t choose the design, so I just think ah we don’t need them anywhere we already have 5 good pairs.

I also sometimes struggle to motivate to get things done, for instance if there is a basket of clean washing to put away I will put it off until I can’t stand the sight of it.

I would like to refresh my makeup bag but whenever I go into Boots I am overwhelmed by the amount of choice, ponder it for ages and then resolve to make do with what I have because I can’t choose.

I have a new debit card come through the post and I need to go and put the pin in it to activate it but each time I CBA as I have Apple Pay so don’t really need to use it.

It’s lots of things like this. I wish I could change it about myself but I am without energy to a lot of the time.

What’s up with me 😂

ADHD.

Do you think?!

Executive function challenges can become more pronounced with motherhood. Usually linked to adhd or autism but could also be depression.

i think it’s hormonal. im getting more like that, as are my friends. we are all menopausal.

i know youre not out age but your hormones may still be a bit out of kilter since the birth of your child.

i’ve heard that a stress induced hormone called cortisol causes all kinds of issues. wonder if it’s that in all of us?!

Possibly, have a read up about it and see what you think. If it chimes with you, then the most important thing is to not beat yourself up about feeling rubbish for something that is inherent in you and be proactive about researching strategies to help.

But very soon someone will come on here moaning about armchair diagnoses…

How old are you?
Can also be part of the brain fog part of peri menopause. Or could be hormone imbalances at any age.

Or might just be simple overwhelm & tiredness as there's a lot more going on now you're a mother.

You could also reframe quite a lot of your examples as a positive - apparently you actually don't need all these things, so you're being efficient and saving money that you didn't need to spend on things that didn't really matter to you. And no-one's going to die if the laundry sits there for a few more days.

Only 26!

I could have written this post myself and I’m a new mum too, I think it’s just a mix of a few things with me and could be with you, tiredness? Hormones? I think at the moment everyone wants a label to explains their quirks but I think it’s a hangover of becoming a new mum, I can relate to everything even the washing basket of clean clothes eyeing me up from the spare room! I find making a list of ‘wishes’ to do that day and then picking out the one I want done the most and that being the non- negotiable. As for clothes, get them when the mood takes you and at time aside.

This is me - also new mum and recently diagnosed ADHD!

Do you think you might have too much time on your hands? No idea about your lifestyle so I might be miles off but I find when I'm busy with work and life I am very decisive but when my days are less full (eg when off work on annual leave or when work is quiet) I faff more when making minor decisions.

Everyone is different. I'm like this but far worse and in other ways too. It seems people just want to be labelled and make it their personality.

I’m the same OP. I suspect I have ADHD. Not going for a diagnosis though as my life runs fairly smoothly in spite of it all. I try to use hacks for my brain although they don’t always work.
If I am struggling to choose, I pick the easiest choice. If I struggle to start a task, I trick myself by saying I will do just one part of it (fold ONE item for example) and that usually leads to me completing it. Especially if I have a podcast on. I’m very all or nothing!

Another good hack - set timers for things. “I will clean for 15 minutes” and I usually get more done in that time than I think I will