Should I feel upset?

[Sunshineseeker24]

My husband and I don’t have a close relationship with my SIL for multiple reasons but we are cordial and friendly the few times a year we see each other.

He let her know we are expecting a baby, she told him congrats but hasn’t bothered reaching out to me. I feel a bit offended but am I being overly sensitive here? Pregnancy hormones making me overly emotional?

Maybe she’s upset you didn’t bother letting her know yourself as a separate person.

Seriously he told her for both of you as you are a couple, she said congrats clearly aimed at both of you, and he’s passed the congrats onto you.

Pregnancy hormones are hard, don’t look for reasons to be upset over nothing!

Surely her say congrats to her brother is in fact to both of you

you say yourself you don’t have a closer relationship

stop thinking about it and move on

In the nicest possible way, yes you are being over sensitive. You are not close and she has passed on her congratulations.

Sounds like it's just who she is. My partners family would but they are nice people even though I can't say I see them much and don't have the best relationship with the would be sister in law. I don't think you should be upset over this is don't think it's personal, just the way she is.

Reach out for what?

Sounds like a win. No need to converse with her at all. Given you don't like her why would you want her to start a chat?

She said congratulations, you say you aren't close, I don't get what more yous expect.

SHOULD you feel upset..... no.
Are you ALLOWED to feel upset...... absolutely if it takes you that way.

Personally I think you are overthinking this one.

She probably thought congratulating your DH was enough. Sadly, your pregnancy news isn’t as exciting to everybody else.

I wouldn’t expect a separate message from my SIL especially if I wasn’t very close.

OP, if you need to ask whether you should feel upset, then assume that you shouldn’t. If SIL congratulated her DB, then I’m sure she assumed the congratulations were to both of you and that he would pass them on.

If your relationship is just cordial and friendly the few times a year you see each other, her response was more than adequate I think.

Otherwise you might've been on here saying "My SIL who I only have a cordial and friendly relationship with and hardly ever see, is suddenly interested in me now I'm pregnant. She's so fake".

Or similar to that.

I don't think she has done anything wrong. I would consider 'congratulations' extended to one half of an expectant couple to be for both of them, I wouldn't contact both separately.