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Rose advice to cover upsetting extension

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LucyCunninghamStill · 17/05/2026 08:40

Posting here for fastest replies as off to the garden centre at 10am.
Joined on (semi detached) next door neighbour's rear single story extension is officially finished.
I loathe what it has done to our garden.
We only have a small narrow garden and we are now boxed in by their extension. It's taken our garden from feeling open and with a view of trees to shaded in by their bricks. And although its only single story, it's really bloody high because the slated roof goes all the way up to their bedroom window ledge! It's enormous. I hate it. They've put in bifold doors which when fully opened up sit right up against our garden fence and tower above it, if I stretched my arm over our fence I'd be able able to wave my hand in the shiny new extension, that's how close their bifold sits up against the fence. And they've filled their gigantic roof with deluxe windows. They have their door fully open and windows fully open as we speak and their household noise - Taylor Swift playing, 1 DC playing keyboard very badly along to it, 1 DC having a screaming meltdown as per usual, the mother shouting at them "CHILDREN DON'T DO THAT" all in surround sound stereo flooding into our quiet little family life now that they've built an extension with full width bifolds and an opening roof.
I hate them for building so selfishly and I need to meditate in order to manage my irrational anger towards them. We are a peaceful, quiet little family who treasured our little quiet garden, it was previously my sanctuary where I de-stressed after recovery from a long chemo journey and the challenges of ND DC who are wonderful in every way but who require non stop input and support. They too crave peace and quiet, they are upset by the shrieking and overly loud music and keyboard playing next door as we speak. It sounds like it's all coming from our own house, only we'd never in a million years make this level of noise. And I can't even complain because they are not in their garden they are INSIDE their house but they now have a wide open house with no wall at the back of their house!!😭
Anyway I've cried for long enough and now I want to grow a massively fast growing huge rambling rose to cover the side aspect of their 4 metre extension and their roof up to bedroom window height that we now look at when we're in our little garden.
Our fence is 5 foot high and it extends out 4 metres along our fence and as high as the bedroom windows.
I know I can't grow a rose directly on to their brickwork.
Help me! What is the fastest growing rose i can buy? Is there a rose that will grow a lot even in this summer? And what can I use to support it growing really high without it directly on their brickwork?
I'm so stuck and so desperate to quickly cover this eyesore.
(BTW roses love our soil - seem to thrive in gardens around here.)

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Carryitjoyfully · 17/05/2026 09:53

Can I suggest a star jasmine? Evergreen, grows rapidly and has the most incredible smell from beautiful white flowers. We've just planted another whole fence full of it after our new neighbours felled all the trees in their garden, binned every single plant, including a whole stretch of healthy established roses that tumbled through our trellis topped fence and filled their whole frigging garden with astroturfing and the biggest trampoline I have seen in a town garden.

I share your pain.

Gettingbysomehow · 17/05/2026 09:54

Re David Austin. The Generous Gardner is a particularly good climber and very prolific. Fantastic scent.

Paytovote · 17/05/2026 09:54

A photo would help.

If it’s casting shade as you say then roses might not be the best if they too are in shade.

Personally I would go with pleaches where the fence starts to shield that part where their door is higher.

For the brick wall itself Japanese self climbing hydrangea. Not the standard one!
Use schizophragma hydrangeoides Moonlight. It’s fast. It’s self clinging and it’s relatively self stopping at roof lines.

I would also plant a tree. The reason it feels hideous atm is because you view the space in relation to the sky. Which is a very big thing. Making your small space feel narrow and poky. By adding a ceiling you bring it back to human scale and it will act as a window. So an acer, small cercis like canadensis or Judas tree, catalpa or even build a pergola frame and grow mulberry or grapes.

NorthFacingGardener · 17/05/2026 09:56

Bless you OP, this sounds very stressful.
I know you want it sorted but don’t go rushing to buy a rose. Get your frame/ support / fence trellis extension sorted first.

Also bear in mind that a rose will be bare all winter. I agree pleached trees would be a more robust barrier.

Jasmine can be quite vigorous too, along with a rambling rose. Whatever you decide, get a good strong structure in place first, the buying of the plants is the last bit.

Good luck, hope you mange to restore your lovely garden.

Thatcannotberight · 17/05/2026 09:57

If you put a trellis up against the fence I'd recommend Clematis Armandii, evergreen, fast growing, fragrant white flowers.

665theneighborofthebeast · 17/05/2026 10:01

Rambling Rector is an excellent choice very vigorous. So much so some places no longer sell it as its a bit of a bully.
We have similarly selfish neighbours and have grown the white variety of passion flower along wires strung along our side of their extension. Its not evergreen so is twiggy in winter. But has leaves on by the time its good sitting out weather and until long after.
If its any consolation the bi or trifold doors get boring really quickly. The wind, the flies, the dirt blowing in. It was only a couple of months before they stopped being used. Although a couple of cheap outdoor speakers and some thrash metal on repeat makes them less appealing to keep open too....just saying ..

Pickledprune · 17/05/2026 10:01

Get some freestanding tall trellis planter boxes and plant: clemantis crystal fountain "fairy blue" in them with scented roses that climb high such as David Austin bring me sunshine. Colours such as purple and apricot look beautiful together. The clemantis crystal fountain fairy blue and bring me sunshine look amazing together and excellent for screening. I know as i have them 😍 xx

Pleatherandlace · 17/05/2026 10:03

Would you consider an evergreen Jasemine? Cheaper than some other options and very fast growing. Ideally up
a 6 foot fence with trellis on top

TallagallaPenguin · 17/05/2026 10:09

Thatcannotberight · 17/05/2026 09:57

If you put a trellis up against the fence I'd recommend Clematis Armandii, evergreen, fast growing, fragrant white flowers.

I was also going to suggest this one - there’s a lovely massive wall of it in Wisley, disguising the toilet block area of all things 😆 so perfect for your neighbours extension. Lovely evergreen long leaves and a beautiful scent. And pair it with a rose (about which I know v little) so you keep the evergreen out of rose season.

Lovingmynewlifestyle · 17/05/2026 10:10

Hippywannabe · 17/05/2026 08:41

Bamboo is the quickest growing, plant a wall of it!

Don’t do this!!! A plant that will damage both properties and is next to impossible to get rid of.

LunaTheCat · 17/05/2026 10:11

I am sorry this happened to you OP.. so inconsiderate NF I don’t know why planning departments allow. Enjoy your new and beautiful plants.

TheToteBagLady · 17/05/2026 10:13

I definitely wouldn’t use a rose. My climbers annd ramblers are absolutely beautiful in summer, but only from June until September.

They won’t offer much cover during the other 9 months of the year, and look very unsightly in winter.

I don’t know enough to offer an alternative, but the garden centre should know a good alternative evergreen

TallagallaPenguin · 17/05/2026 10:14

TallagallaPenguin · 17/05/2026 10:09

I was also going to suggest this one - there’s a lovely massive wall of it in Wisley, disguising the toilet block area of all things 😆 so perfect for your neighbours extension. Lovely evergreen long leaves and a beautiful scent. And pair it with a rose (about which I know v little) so you keep the evergreen out of rose season.

Here’s a picture I took of it in Wisley ages ago to remind us which one to get. I thought it was a jasmine, it had such a heady scent.

Rose advice to cover upsetting extension
climbintheback · 17/05/2026 10:16

Roses are deciduous try something evergreen

karinahh · 17/05/2026 10:18

It is the shrill noise as much as the the overbearing nature of their build. So selfish. I would suggest composting down the end of the garden.

dudsville · 17/05/2026 10:21

SyrupTopped · 17/05/2026 08:52

Yes, pleached trees.

Do you know what kind of tree is in this Pic?

Picklelily99 · 17/05/2026 10:22

Attach some 2ft high trellis across the top of your fence, and grow some Trachelospermum jasminoides. It's an evergreen jasmine climber. It will cover the fence, provide gorgeous flowers that smell wonderful and are a bee magnet. I feel your pain!

Munchyseeds2 · 17/05/2026 10:25

I so feel your pain !
Our neighbours have done similar, add 4 kids into the mix and it is SO noisy
We are looking to move!

If you do plant Bamboo make sure it a clumping type

UtterlyUseless · 17/05/2026 10:30

Pierre ronsard.

Op I know it's childish but can you make noise back and play music ?

UtterlyUseless · 17/05/2026 10:31

Don't touch bamboo at all

Cycleaway · 17/05/2026 10:36

I can really sympathise, I know exactly how it feels to have neighbours behave like this. Sorry you’re having to experience this. It’s not ideal, but I wear earbuds in the garden so that I can listen to an audiobook or nice music to drown them out.

in terms of planting, you probably need a short term strategy. An annual like Cobaea or thunbergia will provide you with a lot of cover quickly this year, and then you’ll be able to pick something you like rather than something that just grows quickly. How about adding plants like honeysuckle or jasmine as well as the rose, so that it smells amazing. As tempting as it might be to add dense planting like laurel, make sure it doesn’t block light from your own garden. Layers of dappled cover can be as effective as dense planting, but mean you still enjoy your own garden, as well as blocking out what’s on the other side

OtterandaRock · 17/05/2026 10:42

Rosa longicuspis
AND
Pleached trees
https://www.trevorwhiteroses.co.uk/shop/rambling-roses/rosa-longicuspis/

JasonTindallsTan · 17/05/2026 10:44

I don’t have any gardening advice but did you not have to have a party wall agreement agreeing to the build? It’s such a shame it’s impacting you in this way. I hope you get something sorted.

OtterandaRock · 17/05/2026 10:45

CmonBobby · 17/05/2026 08:56

rambling roses don’t have a long flowering season and aren’t evergreen or lush in winter so a lot of the year you won’t get the effect you’re after.
Firstly can you put in 6 foot high fences? Add a trellis on top? Might feel a bit boxed in but I’d rather be boxed in with fence than with next doors extension.
what about Ivy? Or some tall pleached trees (expensive). We’ve got a Red Robin hedge on one side which we put in and it’s really done the job.

Not ivy (pulls down anything built).
Virginia creeper?
Wisteria floribunda (not Wisteria sinensis...gets into pipework etc.)

Move house 💐💐💐

PistachioTiramisu · 17/05/2026 10:46

Bottlebrush (Callistemon) another quick grower - green all year round - comes in the normal red and I have just discovered a white one!