To think high earners often socialise with similar earners?

[ByCoolTaupeFish]

Do people who earn more tend to naturally gravitate towards others in a similar financial position?

I can imagine lifestyle, work and shared experiences might play a role, but I’m not sure how much it actually influences friendships and social circles in practice.

AIBU?

Probably. So what though?

No major point really, I just think people often say friendships are completely separate from money/class/lifestyle when in reality social circles do often seem to cluster around similar circumstances.

We all live in bubbles largely defined by economic status. Our coworkers and neighbors are highly likely to have similar finances. Even hobbies are filtering based on expense, time, and proximity.

I can do something simple like go to a knitting group at the town hall. The hobby has a low barrier to entry and can be done cheaply. It’s still a wealthy area and people who have leisure time for a knitting group so I’m unlikely to find a full cross-sample of the population.

I think so yes, unless you come into a lot of money all of a sudden, like a massive lottery win - then you will have to fund all of your friends and family on your round-the-world trips and pray resentment doesn't kick in it will when you are showing them around your massive house.

Perhaps, depends on the person . I know three blokes who are multi millionaires, one with several businesses in addition to his own. The other two with massively successful businesses. They each have multiple homes, great cars, horses, land etc, etc. the three of them still drink with the same people they always have, have given/ created jobs for friends. One still goes home and away to lower league football, in fact he started a travel company to help do that.

They still have the same wife (one still works in the bakery she's worked at for 25 years) they married before making the money. Same mates, the parties are bigger but still at home or in the local pub, same accent, same stupid haircut (one of them)...so maybe not

Mostly yes but i know someone who is a multi millionaire, as down to earth as you like, we go for sunday lunch to theirs and vice versa, as do many others, they invite people to go sailing and its all a bit of laugh.

They dont flash the cash and expect their friends to buy rounds now n then, which keeps it all nice.

On the other hand, i did know a very wealthy person, would even speak to a commoner.

Not necessarily, I’m a high earner but my friends I’ve had since teens/early 20s so all very different economic situations. I’m not sure how I would go about gravitating to people in a similar financial position - eg I’ve met people through kids but have no idea about their jobs/house/background when I meet them. Obviously I spend time with my colleagues and due to the nature of work know exactly how much they earn, and in some ways socialising is easier with them because we all know where we are financially, but I don’t prefer spending time with them over my actual friends!