To change my number and not telling anyone at all?

[MyKindPlumMoose]

I’m estranged from my family and after some recent events I’m about to change my number. Originally the idea was just about boundaries/access etc. But now I’m wondering whether, if I should just start fresh completely.

As in new number, don’t give it to family (they’re the reason I’ll be changing it), don’t give it to old contacts, maybe not even give it to the one friend I currently speak to regularly, and just quietly move forward and let old connections naturally fade if they fade.

Part of me feels this sounds dramatic or avoidant. Another part of me feels oddly peaceful at the idea of nobody automatically having access to me anymore and being able to rebuild life more intentionally from scratch.

I’m not talking about disappearing off-grid or doing anything dangerous/dramatic. I’d still have social media, work, normal life etc. I just mean socially/contact-wise.

AIBU?

I think if that’s what you want to do… do it.

I’d give it to the “one friend” because I wouldn’t want her to believe she’d done something wrong, or worry about my wellbeing.

I’d make it clear that I’d rather she didn’t share it.

What if your 1 friend wanted to speak to you about something they were concerned about?
Relationships with friends (and anyone else really), is about give and take, surely?
Otherwise, absolutely don't give your number to folk you don't want to speak to - ever.

Are you the same poster that's had two other threads going recently, one about family crossing boundaries and one about paying to get a phone number that's special?

I wondered that too.

If that's what you fancy doing, I wouldn't even give it this much thought 🤷‍♂️

Why wouldn't you give it to the friend? Are they the sort of friend that constantly needs favours?