I’ll start off by saying I’m really depressed but still try to be a good mother but everything feels really difficult. This is just for context and I don’t want to use this as an excuse.
I feel my kids are very isolated and will develop problems like me the older they get. We have no family nearby. I want them to have lots of friends and have a good social life but I don’t know how. They’ve only had a handful of play dates over the years and I’ve needed like a week to recover after so I know I’m doing something wrong. Can people please give me ideas on what I can do on playdates and how I can build a “village” for them and myself.
My eldest is a girl aged 10 my youngest is a boy aged 7. September is a big year for us as daughter will start secondary school and son will move from infants to Y3 school so this is a big chance for us to meet new people and make a fresh start. Please help me I feel so lost. I do suffer from anxiety and trauma so what will be a tiny thing for someone for example to have people over will be a stressful thing for me, my house is very messy too so I know step 1 is cleaning and declutter.
What kind of things do people do? Past times I’ve tried it’s ended up being really stressful such as when I asked a mum to join us cinema and I ended up paying the tickets for us and the mum and child plus buying food and it costed so much! The mother never paid me back as she maybe thought I was treating them as I invited them.