To think “I had stuff going on” doesn’t magically stop ghosting from hurting?

[SnugOpalMaker]

I completely understand that people go through difficult periods mentally and emotionally. But I also think being suddenly ignored or cut off by someone you care about - with no explanation, no communication, no closure, can be incredibly painful, even if the reason has nothing to do with you personally.
Sometimes people frame it as “they just had a lot going on.” And while that may be true, it doesn’t necessarily make the experience any less confusing or upsetting for the person left behind.

AIBU?

I think it depends if you were aware of what they had going on in their lives prior to them going silent even if they didn’t let you know that they might be quiet for awhile. Or if it was something so bad that they just weren’t up to talking to anyone. It obviously wouldn’t take away the hurt you have felt from suddenly being ignored but depending on what happened/their explanation for their disappearance, you may or may not be able to understand/accept why it happened.