DH and I just had a heated argument because I have had a go at him tonight about 2 things that have really bugged me today.Firstly, he is wearing a tshirt and there are white marks on the shoulders because he has wiped his grubby mouth on there.I think this is really disgusting, told him so and that it is the sort of behaviour i'd expect of a toddler.I have raised this before (which tbh with a 37 year old man I don't think i should have had to do in the first place) and now having to do so AGAIN i'm really pissed off and also told him it is a turn off.There were also issues awhile back with him not changing his pants daily which not sure if it has resolved or not, but again no excuse for in my book.
The other (admittedly lesser) thing that has annoyed me that I raised was that he keeps going off to work in the morning and leaving the kitchen worktop covered in weetabix crumbs.This just feels sloppy and disrespectful to me- fair enough weetabix is messy but i've asked him on multiple occasions to either open it over the sink or just wipe up the crumbs after.We have 2 young children, another due soon, so I'm heavily pregnant and do not need an adult to tidy up after aswell as the kids.DD1 has ASD/ADHD so already feel like a broken record asking her to tidy up after herself but obviously she is a child.
He is now trying to use every excuse defensively.... bad day/ bad night's sleep/ mental health/ possible neurodiversity himself but IMO it's not good enough.He is an adult and having basic skills of tidying up after himself and wearing clean clothes should surely just happen.
He says i'm being unreasonable, accusing me of being a perfectionist, having OCD blah blah blah.
I said i would ask Mumsnet if i am being unreasonable......