Incidental costs for children - who should pay?

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My ex husband has decided to stop covering incidental costs for my children. He pays over £550 per month in child maintenance, and I also receive a share of his pension (lump sum already received, and monthly payments as well). My salary is £85k, and I receive over £900 per month in rent from my new partner. My ex husband lives nearby and has asked for equal access to our children, but I have refused. When he asked why, I got my solicitor to threaten him with court action for harassment and intimidation.

AIBU to expect him to cover incidental costs on top of what he already pays?

try per visit 🙄

Of course it is!

Why do people bother with reverses? I just don't get it. Just ask what you have to, and folks will help the best they can!

My ex husband lives nearby and has asked for equal access to our children, but I have refused. When he asked why, I got my solicitor to threaten him with court action for harassment and intimidation

Sure you did. 🙄

If your new partner wants to see his children, he will go to mediation and then court. You don't need to do anything.

I hope he goes to Court, gets 50/50 PR so doesn't have to give you any money at all.

Well that's what I'd say if this wasn't a painfully obvious reverse.

Really annoying

i fucking HATE reverses.

It really does!