To have screamed at my kids

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As I’m trying to cook dinner one decides to empty both toy boxes onto the floor. I then discover an ant infestation from an abandoned lunch box. Younger one then tries to drag me from the kitchen when I’m dealing with boiling water so I nearly scald my arm and then lose it with everyone. DH then complains I disturbed his meeting. Fml.

Unless someone burst into his office and he was just annoyed by the noise, your DH is unreasonable for complaining. If he works from home he has to accept that with young children in the house it's going to be noisy sometimes. That said I don't think it's ok to scream at little kids for things like emptying toyboxes or trying to get your attention. You can be firm about telling them you're busy doing something else right now and will come when you're done, but screaming sounds like an overreaction. That said, it happens sometimes and your DH shouldn't make you responsible for his working conditions, that would stress me out too.

Sounds like just one of those days, happens to us all at times. I can see why it wouldn't be good having yelling in the background of a meeting, but I also think trying to keep young children occupied and quiet while someone works from home would be a nightmare. Thank goodness no one was burnt by the water so no real harm done.

I feel you OP!! My eldest gets rewards for shepherding her younger siblings out of the way when I'm cooking, but if she's not around or it's not working then my go-to tactics are either bundling them outside to play on the trampoline or... screen time. Sorry not sorry!

Also for DH - "we're not living in your office, you're working in our home."

Boiling vegetables?! How could you?!

I only steam them in dew i've collected fresh that morning.

I'm sure DH will be more understanding when he's out of the moment of being embarrassed, and if he's still prickly he needs it pointing out that he's working from your home. You're not parenting in his office.

But if he thinks home life is so incompatible with him working that you have to leave your house every time he's working then he should go to the office.

If you don’t have anything helpful to say just go away!

Lunchboxes may be an adult’s responsibility but they’re not “hers”. Regardless finding ants in them is fucking frustrating.

You use dew? I serve my vegetables lightly dressed with my own tears!

of which there are many as we have three boys 😳😂

My response wasn’t very thoughtful sorry.

OP asked if she was BU for screaming at her kids, the answer is yes, it’s always unreasonable to scream at kids unless they’re about to get run over. BUT it happens, I’ve done it myself. It’s ok as long as we learn from it and it’s rare and we apologise to them.

In my opinion, toy boxes being tipped out is normal. Lunch boxes having ants in, isn’t the kids fault, it’s whichever adult left it there long enough. Kids shouldn’t be pulling OP when she’s handling boiling water, that would get a stern go away NOW from me maybe even a loud screech if they didn’t. It’s better to get screamed at then scalded.
DH will just have to get over it unless it’s a regular occurrence.