Am I overreacting

[OneJadeDuck]

My partner of 8 years messages random girls on social media. When I asked him about it he says its only for a laugh and not real people. He also follows a lot of half naked girls. Am I overreacting to be annoyed

Messaging random women?

I think you’re under-reacting.

I’d be way more than just “annoyed”.

He sounds gross. Sorry op.

Putting aside that this is a form of cheating, it also shows a huge insight into this character and how he view woman. As playthings. Not as people.
He is disgusting. He is betraying you, and showing you that he thinks women are nothing more than things to be played around with.

It really is better to be alone than with a man like this. Do you not have any self respect? He is openly messaging these women and you’re still with him, and listening to his excuses?

He sounds pathetic. What is it that makes you want to stay with him? He's a sexist twat who treats woman as objects. Even claiming they're not real people?! Well they probably are bots but then why is talking to bots 'a laugh'?! Does he usually find masturbation and hilarity go hand in hand?

No you’re not overreacting. It’s rude and disrespectful to you.

My daughter just ended a relationship of seven years as he watched porn and followed scantily clad ladies on social media. I wouldn't put up with that. You deserve better. It's disrespectful

Dealbreaker for me I’m afraid.

Absolutely no way would I stay in a relationship like that.

Unacceptable. Nothing wrong with commenting on a friends post say, but following and messaging random girls is crossing the line. He needs to adjust his behaviour or I'd be showing him the door. Although tbf is he's been so brazen with you about following these girls I'd be nervous about what he doesn't tell you about.

Seriously OP, are you genuinly asking if you are overreacting?
Where is your self-esteem and sense of what is right and what is wrong?

You surely dont need confirmation that you are 100% right to object.

I agree with @NovemberMorn

It' s actually seriously worrying that you are even asking. Of course your feelings are valid. And most women would not only be annoyed they would actually be angry and upset to be disrespected in this way.

Presumably yours is supposed to be a monogamous relationship and yet he is openly getting sexual gratification from other women.

He sees nothing wrong with his behaviour. He won't change. You will be much happier and your self esteem will vastly improve if you end this relationship.

I wouldn’t care about someone following ‘half naked’ models etc on Instagram but ‘messaging random girls’? I’d dump someone for that. Immediately.

He’s not just looking at pictures. He’s trying to initiate contact. He isn’t doing that ‘for a laugh’ - if he just wanted a laugh he’d be messaging his mates, not random girls. He’s doing it in the hope of taking it further. He’s a cheat and a creep.

You must know this, surely? You can’t possibly think it’s normal and harmless to be chatting up girls online while in a relationship?

I’d be kicking him to the kerb and beyond!!