I would love to hear from others. I am so fed up with my other half and him not pulling his weight and I don't know how much longer I can keep going with things as they are. We both work full-time (I'm 43, he's 51). Husband works a minimum wage job that comes with anti social hours, because it's something sports related he's done in his youth and he feels very passionate about (he always says he "could never do a desk job" - like it's a badge of honour. I don't have a problem with him working in a low paid job if he feels passionate about it, but the fact he's gone evenings and weekends makes it difficult for me as I have to do all things house and kids. I have one full time job, but am also starting some freelance work , as we were struggling with CoL, bills, childcare, etc. When money is tight, he puts his head in the sand and believes "everything will be fine" - it usually is because I find ways to earn more money. I work an office job and am on an average salary, so nothing fancy. I got really ill last year after being extremely overstretched and stressed working two full -time jobs and doing most childcare and housework, because he he had a very uncertain fixed term job that looked like it wasn't going to get extended. I was worried about this, he was not. He has zero savings and doesn't pay into a pension, which also worries me. In addition to my share of mortgage & bills, I pay for all things the children need, caravan holidays, kids pocket money, the food shop, you name it. He is very lax when doing any attempts of housework - genuinely believes that emptying the dishwasher once in a while and folding the odd bit of laundry is equivalent to what I'm doing (which is all the cooking, shopping, meal planning, life admin, cleaning, tidying etc). No matter how often I explain how uneven and unfair this all is, and ask for more help, nothing changes. He's the fun dad with the kids - let's them stay up late, watches movies, shows them endless videos on his phone. I do the rest, homework, school stuff, try to teach them about things like table manners, tidying their rooms, set rules about screen time etc. the one thing we share more equally is school pick ups and drop offs, but that's about it. Needless to say, I am so often the bad guy, it's really depressing. Have mentioned this so often and again, nothing changes. I don't know what to do. I don't have any family support, my parents visit once a year for a couple of days and are extremely critical of whatever I do, so I would have no support from them. I have lovely friends, but everyone is so busy with kids, work etc etc, I could not reasonably expect anything from them either. I fear my kids would actually prefer to stay with their dad as he's so relaxed and lets them do whatever they want - e.g. late bedtimes, screens in bed, sleeping in on school days - and I'm so overwhelmed doing all the non-fun things. Is this the reality for others too? What would you do?