AIBU to consider moving because of noisy neighbours on all sides?

[ElevenBells]

Would you move from perfectly adequate house, close to school and work to escape noisy neighbours (on 3 sides)?
Alternative would be a nicer area, nicer house but not walkable to school plus a bigger mortgage.
AIBU - yes stick where you
AINBU - take the new house

Move. I moved more rural and whilst we have more logistics it’s heaven.

I'm in a terrace and got horrific neighbours one side, think bass music thumping through the walls on max volume.

It's miserable and shreds your physical and mental health. If you can move then I would definitely take a chance and do that.

Live in the same place (Housing estate) long enough and you realise it goes in cycles. Children grow up. Childish noise like playing ball or trampolines are replaced with cars and coming home at all hours. Neighbours come and go. We had 25 years at our previous address and saw families grow up, move on and be replaced. In the grand scheme of things is all stayed the same.

Unless you are able to buy a house that guarantees peace and quiet, as others have said dont make the move.

Yes, I would move. My life was made miserable by awful neighbours who blared music out for at least 10 hours a day all throughout lockdown, fought outside on the street (resulting in the police being called), blocked my car in on the drive and left supermarket shopping trollies in their garden. They would also tell their visitors to park on my drive without asking.

They were renting but the landlord did nothing about it (even when they didn’t pay their rent). I dreaded coming home from work everyday. I sold but I still drive past and look at the house wistfully, as I loved it, but they ruined it for me.

If you do move, do your research, find out who the neighbours are and their position. Visit at several times during the day/evening etc.

We’re hoping to move away from
our noisy neighbours (who are nowhere near as bad as yours) but we really can’t afford detached and I’m not sure if getting a semi would just be risking more of the same.

I couldn’t live like that, if you can afford it move.

I would move.

I'm in social housing; therefore the frying pan to fire risk is ever present; SH people primarily seem to have bypassed learning how to behave considerately.

Your mind and nervous system will be dialled into every noise and movement. Thought's of these neighbours will pervade without you realising. I believe this has and can have a huge impact on well being.

I'd do a number of drive bys to the place you're thinking of going.

I lived in a privately rented area and also owned a place in the busiest of city areas. Now, in rural social housing, it's difficult dealing with people who are like what you're describing.

Go for it....

Given the info about your awful neighbours, OP, yes, i would move.

Home needs to be your refuge, and it doesn't sound like yours is for you.

Visit the new neighbourhood on different days, during the week and at weekends, and different times. Talk to some locals if you can - what's the best and worst things about living there? Get a good feel for it.

Then decide for sure.

If you do move, do your research, find out who the neighbours are and their position.

That’s good advice, but if OP puts her house up for sale, she may well find that potential buyers will also do their due diligence.

Yes. My last move was because of neighbours. There’s no point in having a nice house if you can never feel relaxed in it.

And, if the OP moves, there's nothing to stop the new neighbbours, just as the OP settles into her nice new home, putting their house up for sale and selling to a family of party-loving, loud-voiced karaoke fans.

It's not something research can be guaranteed to solve.

I'd move- it sounds like a nice area you're thinking about. Even if your new neighbours are noisy, they're more likely to be approachable and respond well to complaints.

What sort of ndn are you? I used to be imo a good ndn. Dc were under control noise wise... Ddogs were very well trained. Ndn ran a business and said he /guests never heard them. We parked considerably (permits but no spaces). We moved when ll sold up. New neighbours are frankly utter twats both sides. Ddogs barking. Abuse from 1 side.. A year of building work the other.
My patience frayed and fucking snapped.. No farting involved..
So I stopped giving a fuck. Dc can Game Rage. New dpuppy can bark and be a dick. Tea is ready I used to text. Now just bellow.. I have absolutely no fucks to give. And now the ndn's noise affects me not a jot.. Not 1...and they can't say a bloody thing.

The local council detailed their noise complaints criteria when I tried to report both sides. The odd barking episode /shouting isn't on their To Do list.. All good here now.