To refer my DF to adult social care for some support?

[TheNaturalBronde]

Or not…?
background:
My DF is in his late 60s , has a leg amputated and has a prosthetic, lives alone (parents separated, extended family live a distance away) works part time.
However living conditions are not great and hygiene can be an issue, MH issues in the past.on visiting there is often nowhere to sit for piles of paper , bits etc on the sofa
kitchen is often dirty no cups clean, fridge unclean, bathroom unclean, bed with no sheet on etc.
Last year I had a firm/supportive word about his living conditions were triggered by an unpleasant visit helping sort some furniture where we found a dead rodent.
I was concerned, disturbed & also rightfully annoyed. I said if you won’t tidy for yourself/us why should we rifle through your filth?

A year on, it doesn’t appear to have changed a great deal, I am struggling with the dilemma of referring to adult social care as he needs support in terms of cleaning that we can’t give at this time.
but im hesitant for a few reasons
a) Will we be expected to pay for any support he gets ( not in a position to)
b) he will know it’s us & as he allows no one else in
c) will be angry, further isolate himself after feeling betrayed

any advice would be greatly appreciated.

You won’t be expected to pay for anything

he probably will.

i dunno quite how it works but you can request a needs assessment which basically looks at what support would he benefit from.

if he tells them to get lost then there’s not much they can do.

I've found social care to be completely unhelpful. Maybe someone else can tell you more positive stories, but you've asked for honest opinions, and I could only tell you about terrible experinces-no help, asking us for money for a home we didn't want our relatives in, and keeping asking us about what money they had, luckily they didn't own their homes and had little money, so they couldn't get it.
And they moved one relative to a care home against our wishes and hers, and the "care" she got was awful. I'd always try to look after family myself, and never trust the state.
I don't think they can take your money directly, but can take money your relative wanted to give you (in our case, as I've said, there was none, but that's why I know a bit about it) but please seek qualified legal advice, as I can only tell you our experince and am not qualified to say.

You would be better getting a cleaner in. As your dad is capable of going to work, he should be capable of maintaining his living conditions, but is choosing not to. The same goes for his personal care, he is able to manage it but is choosing not to. Just because he has a prosthetic leg, he would not automatically be able to get a service.
If you refer your dad to Social Services, you would need his consent. An assessment under the Care Act would be completed and is based on need and his ability to meet his own needs, but he is unlikely to be eligible for any services as he is able to get out and go to work so he has a high level of independence and ability. Also, cleaning is not part of the service provided by Social Services, people are expected to get a cleaner for that.

If he isn't willing to engage with any help, there's no point. He can choose to live in a filthy manner, but you can choose your own boundaries.

Adult social care do not supply cleaners. They would only help if someone was incapable of washing and dressing themselves, toileting etc.

Thanks for the responses

as i imagined really that it’s not really an appropriate option,
it’s all down to him but i know he won’t.

I was offered £75 a week to pay for a cleaner, as I was looking after DD - who needed 1:1 supervision all her waking hours.