AIBU to feel I am no longer attracted to anyone?

[Overthinking89]

I’m 37 and I’m just not finding men attractive anymore. I split with my DP last year and I thought maybe it was him I didn’t find attractive as he stopped looking after himself and isn’t ‘traditionally’ good looking by any means.
I’ve been on quite a few dates, see people at different groups and have been trying to get to know men. Even in the street I remember I used to be attracted to men if I saw someone who caught my eye. I feel as though I pick up on every flaw and imperfection and no one really feels ‘attractive’ to me like they did previously.

I’m definitely not gay, I’m not attracted to women either.

Has anyone else got this issue? I’m currently in my ovulation part of my cycle and normally I used to find all sorts of men appealing at this stage of the month. But I just don’t.

Just me then?

I'm like that and always have been, but I'm asexual.

I'm mostly like that. I think after my last relationship I've been so put off wanting that again, that my brain/hormones or whatever have just switched off in that respect.

I can imagine disembodied sex, but can't imagine wanting it with an actual person. Because I'm sick of the shit that comes with relationships, even just as minor as a one night stand.

So I do get it. I can see logically that some people are attractive. But I never feel it anymore.

As you get older, the % of men of the same age who have let themselves go, definitely increases.

I'm older than you and there are very few men of my age that haven't run to fat, ceased to wash, or given up any sartorial pride. Or all three. But there are still some. Keep looking, they're there, they're just rarer. 😊

I've had a few start up relationships in the last year and have found flakeyness, opinionated, judgemental, ghosting and little habits that have given me the ick and now can't see a woman and find her attractive because of these negative experiences.

I think disembodied sex is probably best as a PP stated.