To still be hacked off with DH?

[KatieScarlett2833]

DH had to get up early this morning to take DS to football (DH is coach). Was woken at 7am by DH slamming wardrobe doors and huffing and puffing around the bedroom. I ignored him in the way you would ignore a toddler tantrum and went back to sleep. Was woken up later by the return of DH and DS by more yelling and stomping, DH behaving like Hitler, ordering everyone around and clearly in a foul mood. I got up and went downstairs to be confronted by DH aggressively asking me ?What?s wrong with YOU!!?
I replied calmly, ?When you have lost the attitude, I will talk to you, until then, get out of my face, Pal?. He then went out to buy trainers for DS.

He has just returned, all sweetness and light, no mention of previous temper, expecting me to act as if nothing has happened, showing me trainers, explaining politely that he has agreed to go with BIL to cut MIL?s grass. I have responded politely, but shortly.

I am in no way afraid of him, BTW,but am aggrieved that he thinks behaving agressively towards Kids and I is acceptable.

AIBU to be pissed off still by his behaviour this morning? He has not apologised, but is being all nicey nicey.

[theSuburbanDryad]

He probably doesn't think he did anything wrong and that YOU are the unreasonable one for calling him up on his temper.

If he mentions your period, however, you have my permission to disembowel him - and no court in the land would convict you!

[onebatmother]

YANBU

But you definitely need to talk to him - if this is in character it needs to stop, if not, you need to find out what's suddenly brought it on. And then it needs to stop.

[KatieScarlett2833]

No mention of PMT yet, how should I deal with this when he comes home from MIL's?

Forgive and forget (and excuse Hitleresque behaviour) or remove gonads with ice cream scoop?

[posieflump]

Well he is probably aware that he has peed you off
I'd just forget it and enjoy him being nice
Afterall you did get to spend all morning in bed didn't you while he went to football and to get the trainers?

[Spaceman]

He did exactly what you told him to do: Get out of your face and loose the attitude. Sounds like a well behaved DH if you ask me!!

[milknosugar]

does no one here ever get in a bad mood? sometimes you catch people at the wrong time. if he doesnt do it a lot just forget it

[posieflump]

my dh is laways ignoring my bad moods
If he didn't I don't think we'd last much longer
When I'm grumpy because I'm tired the best thing to do is to leave me alone!

[KatieScarlett2833]

Yes Posie I did. It made a change as I am always first up EVERY day.

[KatieScarlett2833]

OK will forgive and not mention previous behaviour. Thank you MN Jury!

[pagwatch]

You have to speak to him about it though. Just being quietly pissed off - polite but unresponsive - is terribly passive aggressive.

( says the queen of PA )

[KatieScarlett2833]

Agreed pagwatch, but how should I go about it? (I have a PHD in passive agresion, BTW)

[KatieScarlett2833]

I gave him half my meatball marinara on his return from MIL's. He's really confused now.

[DirtySexyMummy]

He was in a bad mood.

He has cheered up now, no harm done.

whats the problem?