One of my siblings is a millionaire, but through almost like winning the lottery. They also earn a high income - and I do too. We are both in our 30's. Our other siblings earn very little. There is a family crisis that needs money to resolve it. The cost for my wealthy sibling would be 0.2% of their total wealth. For me, it would cost 20% of my total wealth. Yet, my sibling is willing to give the money as long as they can then claim it back from inheritance. It's causing a huge family feud, and I feel caught in the middle. I feel uncomfortable because we have different value systems: I feel that if someone has a huge disproportionate amount of wealth, they have a moral responsibility to pay disproportionately for family, especially in times of crisis. Eg even when I'm with a close friend who earns substantially less than I do, I pay for all our meals every time, etc, help out with important purchases when they're short of cash - not expecting a thank you or thinking that makes me a "good" person - I just think that's normal. Our family is coming apart because everyone is upset with the wealthy sibling for not having helped anyone out yet since they became wealthy (relatively recently), and more so now we are in this family crisis, the wealthy sibling wanting us to all sign a contract to ensure that they can get the money back from the inheritance. I feel really caught in the middle: I've offered to pay instead, and genuinely am willing to, but the family thinks that is absurd given the wealth disparity, and is angry with the wealthy sibling. What do I do? AIBU thinking that I should have a frank conversation with the wealthy sibling and say I think they should pay for all of it without wanting any money back from the estate? Currently I've been trying to mediate, but since there are so many simmering resentments maybe it would be better if we all just had it out in a (undoubtedly explosive) conversation/argument?