Anyone else feeling down in the dumps?

[querygh]

Does anyone else have what feels like no friends or family around them that want to see them? I’m 29 and I’ve spent most of my day in bed feeling fairly low as I feel I just have no one to do anything with. I’ve decided to walk the 2 miles to our local shop, and that’s my Saturday night. It just sucks. I guess I’d like to speak to people who are also feeling down in the dumps today x

I am. Desperatly trying to spend as little as possible. Didn't do anything bank holiday, we just stayed at home. Not doing anything this weekend. Just staying at home. I have been for a run. Tonight me and DH will sit looking at each other (not literally, that's how it feels). Absolutely boring as fook. June will be the same

I was literally thinking the same thing earlier. I have the sort of friends I only see every couple of months - no one to hang out with in the evening or at weekends. I have a bf but his shifts mean it's difficult to see each other (don't live together) eg last weekend he spent with his late teen son who he hadn't seen for a few weeks, and then he's worked 6 days finishing at midnight. It's really lonely

You have a husband. Many people don't have anyone.

We all feel lonely sometimes. It can be even worse when you're lonely in a relationship (admittedly, that's not helpful). Going for a walk hopefully will help. ( I walk my dogs daily and have made quite a few friends doing so). Just because you don't feel like you have anyone to do something nice with, doesn't mean you can't do something nice anyway!

@querygh what do you mean it feels like you have no friends or family round you? You either have them or don’t have them.

Also, it sounds very remote where you live if you have to walk 2 miles to the local, that itself can feel isolating. Maybe move?

I think when in your 20s there seems to be this pressure of always having to appear to have a very busy ‘social’ life. Most people your age put this pressure on themselves. Good news is, as you age, this seems to lessen.

If you’re thinking everyone else is having a great ‘fun-filled’ Saturday night, you’d be wrong. So just accept your situation, snuggly up to watch Saturday night TV, snack on the treats you bought, and enjoy yourself. You never know come your 30s you could be knee deep in nappies and wishing you could go back to appreciate your quiet relaxing Saturday nights.

Why does it feel like your friends and family don't want to see you? Has anything happened to make you feel this?

@Callmeback first I’ve heard of this! Please let me know where he is

Apologies I read the first two posts as one so thought they were both yours.

FWIW, I'm in the same boat. Lots of us are. It sucks.