To play loud music to drown out tantrum

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Im sat in the garden, neighbours kid has been screaming solidly for 5 minutes, the mums screaming at him which is even more annoying would i be unreasonable to play some loud music to drown them out

So you do speak to her.

offer her a cup if tea - maybe she’ll accept and stop shouting or take the hint and stop shouting

I recommend Sleep Jar, rainforest sounds. I have it on almost all the time due to noise issues.

Why would the child end up beaten. Thats a massive stretch from someone telling their kid to shut the fuck up or telling them to stop being a knob. Do you live in some kind of weird bubble surrounded by Mary Poppins and miss honey type parents.

No because then her bratty kids would be in my house

because ALL abuse starts somewhere

ultimately it’s your choice whether to report or not but you need to be aware that these things can escalate quickly especially if someone is struggling and maybe has no support.

Do I live in a weird bubble?
What a really rude thing to say -

I'm saying from years of safeguarding training in various roles, I’ve seen all sorts and your attitude is that you don’t want to report it but you want to moan about it - not really helpful for anyone is it?

Does mum’s behaviour happen regularly? If so I would report to social services

Oh play music she doesn't appreciate, or a highbrow radio talk show and put the speaker next to the fence. Do some fake noisy DIY on adjoining interior wall early or late in the evening.

I think an anonymous report to social services might be useful. They can check all is ok. See if she needs support. Even if all is well she may be more mindful of her behaviour.

Plant some smelly horse manure next to adjoining fence if she sits in garden.

Or maybe play a foreign radio show. Very annoying!

Its the British way we just like a good moan. From my experience of abuse I'm more concerned about the parents who put on the perfect parent act infront of others. Thats what the real narcissists do.

I think id rather hear the tantrums

Telling an upset child to fuck off and that they’re a nob is abusive and horrendous behaviour. If you ring the police it might save a child and end your own problem of having to listen to them.

Are you seriously expecting the police to attend a stressed mother yelling at her toddler having a tantrum?!

Really?!

Its more likely that the OP would be flagged for being one of "those" neighbours and if she calls again, she would be assumed to be a professional PITA, even if her neighbour was actually murdering her child.

Its not that deep.

I would try opera. Maria Callas is a good start.

My next door neighbours are horrendous, constantly screaming at each other and the kids. They can't talk at a normal volume at all & the wife seems to goad her family into constant arguments.

My solution? Heavy metal or opera at full blast pointed towards their wall, it works a treat every time. Mainly because the musical screeching interrupts their argumentative flow & confuses them.

Since my musical interventions, they've toned down their arguments because I've trained them like a dog. The woman used to glare at me but doesn't anymore because she's aware that I know all the secrets of her marriage.

So if any of you lot screetch at full volume, be aware that your neighbours have heard EVERYTHING. Including how shit your dh is in bed, affairs and financial problems etc. Neighbours are quite happy to tell the street and throw it back in your face if you behave like an arsehole one day!