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Scabies

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ItchyandScratchiness · 08/05/2026 22:24

So I've just been diagnosed with scabies... not on my genitals thank goodness, it's on my upper body only. For weeks I thought I was allergic to something.

I've done the Permethrin cream treatment and wow, already, what a relief. It has to be repeated in one weeks time. I now have to sort all my bedding, soft furnishings, nuke the house basically.

I know I caught it from my ex as he was constantly itching in the 4 or 5 months before we split up. It was on his leg, his arms, his chest. The GP said it was something else and gave him a cream for his leg, an antibiotic, which seemed to have some effect. But the rash remained elsewhere and he'd be so itchy at night. I never clicked and thought it was an allergy and he changed his detergents.

So I let him know the other day that I had it and that he best get checked out, that it sounded as if he had had it for some time and the only place I could have possibly caught it was from prolonged skin to skin contact with him. Also given that the mites can also get left in clothing, bedding, towels etc. Also on furniture. No apology. But he said he'd call the doctor today and has been off work all day. I heard nothing from him and have just chased him. He said he was too busy.

Am I right to be pissed off? I suppose all told his lack of care in certain areas of our brief relationship made me end it and I shouldn't be surprised. But just not bothering and zero apology... Grrrr

Suppose this is more of a rant than anything else....

OP posts:
MildlyAnnoyed · 09/05/2026 06:36

I had it on my hands last year. I’m not sure how I caught it because I didn’t have prolonged contact with anyone. It’s not an STD & he didn’t give it you intentionally. There’s also no guarantee it was him that transmitted it. I’m not sure what you’d be annoyed for?

Doggymummar · 09/05/2026 06:39

I got it from dirty bed in uni accommodation, it's not sexually transmitted itchy as h3ck tho. I was painted yellow and it went thank god

NoSleepNight · 09/05/2026 06:43

Sorry you're going through this OP!!!

It's put me right off booking some time away next week!

Guess I'm glad to save the money!

YourRedLurker · 09/05/2026 08:09

They can be really difficult to get rid of once they've infected your house. Wash/treat everything! Make sure to do the second treatment on you with permethrin (first only gets the living ones not their eggs so second treatment times for when they'll have hatched but not laid their own eggs).

iDustMite · 11/05/2026 16:59

It’s really important to do the second treatment exactly as advised, and to treat close contacts at the same time if recommended, to avoid reinfection. Bedding, towels, and clothing used recently usually just need a hot wash and hot dry or sealed storage for a few days depending on guidance.

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