Boys talking about Dd’s private parts-do I contact teacher/parents?

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Dd is 7 and often plays with some boys in her class at school sometimes and really likes them
Today in the car home she said that one of them was talking about her private parts and whispering and that the other boy was kind and told Dd. I asked what they were saying and she got angry and said to stop asking her. I asked what she did and she said got angry at him of course. She won’t say more
Am I being dramatic by considering contacting his mum? Is this just a normal thing? Have no experience with this!

Yes mention it to the school as you and your DD are worried and upset by this. It's hard to know what exactly the issue is though - were they just saying DD has girl parts? Doesn't have a penis? All of which is true, so I am not sure if there is any wrongdoing.

The teacher is likely to be able to have a general chat with the class or link it in to PSHE.

Talk to the school, not the parent. They should use an educational consequence to address this and it will be flagged for future monitoring. They deal with this a fair bit.

All our safeguarding training at school teaches us that once some "low level concern" crosses our path, we share the information with someone senior (known as a designated safeguarding lead). When you give a brief, factual written account including names to the teacher, they will share it with the DSL (or you can do so directly) and then the information is recorded confidentially (in case it is part of a bigger picture) and they decide on any follow-up (always discreet).

Your child won't be singled out in class and your involvement will not be known. It may be some support will be put in place for tbe boys and your dd also.

We are taught that it isn't a choice or a debate to report -- concerns are shared with the appropriate person and they deal with them in a professional manner and with all the information they need.

We then step aside -- which you can do too.(other than continuing to help your child be open with you about her experiences).

What can i do? I tried talking gently

I would leave talking about it to her for the moment. She might open up more about it later. Mention to teacher in your communication with them that your DD doesn’t want talk about it anymore and is getting cross and upset. Teacher can keep an eye on her and her interactions with the boys. Will know how to handle it.