Should I ignore MIL

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MIL and I are cordial with each other, but we have a slight dislike of each other.

DH told me that MIL told him that him and I should go our separate ways, and for him to see the kids on the weekend.

This was due to an incident that happened at home, which was completely his fault. I would like to keep the incident private, but it involved DD, and it was completely avoidable.

I'm not sure if to ever talk to her again.

This is on DH. Why did he tell her what happened, obviously with a very one sided account? why did he then relate her nastiness back to you? Why does he want you disliking each other? That is the real question. Anyone without an agenda would have kept their trap shut.

There's very little information to go on tbh but you are well within your right to ignore someone you don't like, seems sensible.

You only have his word that she said anything

I would wonder what he hoped to gain from telling you? Knowing that someone is on his side and is only willing to see his children on weekends? So a Disney Dad?

Why has he not got your back? Why is he telling his Mother these things? This isn't just your MIL this is also your Dh. You are meant to be a team, he is meant to back you up. I wonder exactly what he told her about the incident.

Tell us more about your DH…

What did your husband respond with when she said this?

I wouldn’t talk to her anymore. Depending on how your husband responded would have me questioning the marriage.

Why did she ever have to know what happened? Between him telling her and her response it sounds like he goes running to mummy and she loves it. She wants to know that she is the number one woman in his life not you, and his behaviour tells her that she is. Of course she doesn't like you, she wants him all to herself.

She is not your problem. DH is. Unless and until he is prepared to cut the apron strings you will be number two. Let me guess this isn't the first time she's tried to interfere in your marriage and he's let her. He was shit stirring telling you what she said. He should have told her to keep her beak out and that he's married to you not her.

He said that of course he isn't going to leave me and the kids.

Apparently she responded with saying that she's glad he said that.

DH now thinks she did it just to test him

Why did his mum need to know about the incident?
What made her think he should leave you over this and become a weekend dad?

He’s full of sh*t!

This is on your DH

Why?

Omg this! what the hell did he tell you that for. Somethings are not for everyone’s ears. If we all think of things we say maybe to those nearest and dearest about others. Would you say it to their face No.

Because he would have started with saying the nuts-mum gave him a nuts-test about leaving you and the kids. Maybe adding something along the lines of ‘she’s off her rocker!’.

But he didn’t. He deliberately stirred the pot. Sounded like he wanted to prove to you he wasn’t the only one who thinks the incident wasn’t his fault but yours or DD.