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AIBU to think safe sleep matters more than sleep training debates?

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YellowDaffodil25 · 06/05/2026 15:24

Following the BBC publishing this article yesterday, I’ve seen a number of posts on Instagram speaking about why sleep training is negative.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce84e1vn1l2o

Why are people using this to fuel the gentle approach vs sleep training vs not debate - this is about safety - and that’s the most important thing. Sleep train or don’t, or something in between, but do whatever you do safely?!

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Dangerous baby-sleep advice given to parents by self-described experts, secret filming reveals

The advice puts babies at risk of serious harm, even death, medical professionals have told the BBC.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce84e1vn1l2o

OP posts:
DreamyPenn · 06/05/2026 15:30

you don't need to sleep train, but there are definitely some mistakes parents fall into when trying to get children to sleep - like room being too hot to sleep, child not having enough sleep pressure and missing tired cues in newborn...
but I definitely agree with you that safe sleep is most important. It's just that overtired parents keep sleeping with baby in arms because they think baby won't sleep if they put baby in the cot.

minipie · 06/05/2026 15:45

A lot of the safe sleeping advice ignores the fact that an exhausted parent isn’t safe either. I fell down the stairs while carrying DD because I was so sleep deprived (luckily she was fine).

If your baby will not sleep under strict SIDS rules and you’re at the point of such exhaustion that you might easily have an accident, then it may actually be safer overall to ease up on some of the rules, if it means everyone gets more sleep.

PancakeCloud · 06/05/2026 15:47

DreamyPenn · 06/05/2026 15:30

you don't need to sleep train, but there are definitely some mistakes parents fall into when trying to get children to sleep - like room being too hot to sleep, child not having enough sleep pressure and missing tired cues in newborn...
but I definitely agree with you that safe sleep is most important. It's just that overtired parents keep sleeping with baby in arms because they think baby won't sleep if they put baby in the cot.

Contact naps are fine in some cases?

The dangerous advice provided was around babies sleeping on their front.

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