To think at 35 you don’t put off ttc

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Just that at 35 I think you need to carry on

You do need to carry on yes

Not sure of the context but broadly speaking yes. 35 is orange zone.

Who is ‘you’?

Depends on stuff like the situations, thoughts and feelings.

Eg married ten years and would be devastated not to have biological DC, single, in a new relationship, known fertility risks, broke…..

Depends.

When do you want kids? What would you feel if you didn’t have kids? Are you in a good situation to bring kids into? What’s making you consider pausing?

I broadly agree with you unless there is a very good reason to stop.

Has the government put a tax on cyber ink or something?

Yet another thread with so little information, it was hardly worth starting.

I was with a complete shit at 35. I prioritised leaving and finding a new relationship. I am now pregnant. I’m pleased I didn’t crack on with my ex.

Context matters. If he is saying delay I’d worry he is stringing you along at this stage.

I got pregnant at 43 first try

I fell pregnant first tries at 37 x 2; both miscarried. Pushed on the next cycle when I turned 38 fell pregnant and successful pregnant. Now have a wee boy napping on me. I pushed on as soon as I got a permament contract and had moved house; started TTC straight away (married September ‘24). I was nervous about it due to age.

Carry on trying, or stop trying? Are you thinking of giving up? All of my close friends had babies after 35. If you don’t want to carry on trying then don’t, if you want a baby then carry on trying to have one. If you don’t want a baby right now, don’t try for one.

Exactly. At 35, I had way too many other things going on to consider having a child. It was something I was happy to postpone because I didn’t care much if I had a child or not. In fact, I conceived the first month of trying at 39, but it was a risk I took consciously, because the stakes weren’t high for me.

If it had been a choice between having to have a baby at 35 or not at all, I’d have gone with not. It didn’t suit me then.

Broadly speaking yes but as PP said, it really depends on the circs.

It depends on the circumstances and unless you’re thinking about your own fertility then it is not your business.

If you’re with a man who is telling you it can wait, OP, he will probably never agree to have children with you.

if you want them, leave now

tee hee!

This is why you should watch where you're going, posting and cliff walking at the same time.

Depends on if you want a baby at 35/36, I suppose.

I wanted one at 37, a planned 5 year age gap, so yes, I put off TTC until I was 36. I’ve had 3 pregnancies though all in my 30s, pregnant 1st or 2nd month off the pill each time.

Well, obviously starts rapidly declining from 35 as well as increased risks for mother and baby. But some women don’t want children. Others would rather take the risk of being child free or increased risk of disabilities etc than end up with a low life tosser as the father. It’s only the decision of the woman in question really.

The cliff edge at 35 has been debunked but even if it was the case obviously there are many valid reasons at any age to postpone if needed/wanted.

If someone is in the right relationship, financially stable and definately wants children then waiting would usually be unnessesarily risky. However that age is already past the point of NHS IVF support in some areas. I say this as someone who fell pregnant within 6 months at 27 and 30, tried again from 33 and had 3 miscarriages over 8 years with no third baby and the only reason the tests found was declining fertility due to age, coupled with my cousins both leaving trying until 38 and neither having a baby at the end of it, so I do accept that my personal experience skews my opinion and many people do have healthy successful pregnancies later, but as others have stated it's always a balance to what is ultimately the most important thing to you because we will always have to make choices and compromises.