AIBU to regret changing jobs after finding the new role toxic?

[hlapa]

To regret moving jobs?

I had some gripes at my old place and decided I wanted a new challenge. The team at my old place actually cared about my development.

An old colleague reached out about an opportunity at their new employer. I interviewed and got was told I got excellent feedback and they really wanted me. I spoke to old colleague about work culture and she said all was well and the working hours were long but stable.

Reality is so so different. I heard soon after joining that they were unsure about me but needed someone so they would just sack me after 6 months if I wasn’t good enough.

I have repeatedly been told I am not meeting expectations over the most insane things and have no support or training. It’s toxic with a capital T. I’ve just had to work a 70 hour week with no over time, plus then work half of Saturday and all day bank holiday and will get no recognition or pay.

I can’t leave because it will look bad on my cv to leave somewhere / will look like I got sacked. It’s really getting me down, I can’t really enjoy life at the minute.

Ofcourse you can leave just explain the gap in your cv as extended holiday or something leave the job off

Reach out to your previous place and see if they’ll take you back. I know of a few people who have returned to previous employers when new roles haven’t worked out.

You might not want to leave, but you can definitely start looking for new roles. Just be honest but diplomatic about why you are looking so soon

You can definitely leave! Start looking for new role - gap in CV easily explainable with holiday/caring duty etc. You can even just be honest in interviews and say you were looking for a new challenge but role wasn’t as described, or something like that.

You can definitely leave - I'd start looking for a new role immediately! You can explain the gap easily or put it down as something else entirely. One short role is fine, it's multiple short roles that are the problem. Would your old company want you back? I'd ask them if you had a good relationship with them.

Life is too short to put up with such misery for 70 hours a week. You do have a choice, and there is always a hidden solution to any problem but we won’t see it if we are wrapped up in emotion.

objectively what is the worst thing that could happen if you walked?

You left yourself with zero wiggle room by telling yourself you can’t leave - of course you can, and you should if the place is that toxic!

You couldn’t know what the new role was like until you tried it; you made a decision hoping for the best and unfortunately it hasn’t been as you’d hoped. So now you just need to take a deep breath and make another decision. None of us can see the future so take the pressure of yourself by excepting that there are just decisions to be made in life and if a decision goes well, then great, but if not, well you couldn’t have known so don’t dwell on it and just make another one.