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Co parenting issues

8 replies

SassyCrab · 05/05/2026 09:27

I just need advice outside of my friends/family. My ex has brought our toddler a motorcross, and when he goes down to his on the weekend he takes him around on it together in a field. I was away with my partner to get a text saying that my son has fallen off with a picture of his left side of his face completely grazed and my ex brushed it off to be only a few scratches, “he’s a toddler things like this happens”. When no he should’ve been wearing a helmet and head to toe in safety stuff, I’ve sent a text making it very clear if he was to go on it again then he needs to have all the safety stuff, but I just don’t think he’s going to listen. I don’t really know what to do from here as don’t want my toddler to go there if he’s going to be put at safety risk. Even dropping him off at nursery today I felt like an idiot explaining as who lets a 2 year old on a bike without helmet!! Me and my ex really don’t get on, barely tolerate each other and it’s like talking to a child half of the time. Any advice?

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takealettermsjones · 05/05/2026 09:34

That's insanely stupid and I'd rethink sending him. What's he like with other aspects of parenting/safety issues? I'm surprised a two year old can even handle a motocross bike - minimum age for races is 4 isn't it?

endofthelinefinally · 05/05/2026 09:35

I wouldn't be surprised if nursery make a safeguarding referral.

endofthelinefinally · 05/05/2026 09:37

Did you take a photo of the injuries and put your concerns in text or email to ex?

SassyCrab · 05/05/2026 09:54

takealettermsjones · 05/05/2026 09:34

That's insanely stupid and I'd rethink sending him. What's he like with other aspects of parenting/safety issues? I'm surprised a two year old can even handle a motocross bike - minimum age for races is 4 isn't it?

He can’t ride it so he goes on it with him, this is what I’m going to have a think about as I’m concerned this will happen again and with the state of his face I’m just really angry about it. To begin with I never had worries about my child being with him, and he seemed always fine but now me and my ex are more hostile where I’ve moved on etc, communication isn’t great and he always thinks he knows best

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SassyCrab · 05/05/2026 09:56

endofthelinefinally · 05/05/2026 09:35

I wouldn't be surprised if nursery make a safeguarding referral.

They did seem concerned as nothing like this has ever happened especially in my care but I have got evidence of everything on text and telling him that this cannot happen going forward and he needs to be head to toe in safety wear!

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takealettermsjones · 05/05/2026 09:56

SassyCrab · 05/05/2026 09:54

He can’t ride it so he goes on it with him, this is what I’m going to have a think about as I’m concerned this will happen again and with the state of his face I’m just really angry about it. To begin with I never had worries about my child being with him, and he seemed always fine but now me and my ex are more hostile where I’ve moved on etc, communication isn’t great and he always thinks he knows best

So the bike is big/heavy enough for an adult to ride and the two year old is riding on it with no safety gear? Insane, no way I'd be sending him again. He's a danger to your son.

Pinkflamingo10 · 06/05/2026 07:16

I wouldn’t send him again. And I’d make my own safeguarding referral to social services.

Apprentice26 · 06/05/2026 07:20

As the other lady said Phone social services he’s not gonna listen to a word you say in relation to looking after the child hopefully he’ll listen to them if they have the time to call him
If not at least it’s noted that you do not approve of this behaviour

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