Not to tell DD her grandad is really ill

[Milly16]

DD 16 is about to start her GCSEs. Her grandad has been ill for a few months and has recently really deteriorated. She knows he's a bit poorly but not how bad. I don't know he'll be alive once her GCSEs are finished. I know she'd be devastated not to have the chance to say goodbye, though in any event he doesnt really want visitors. She is already extremely stressed about her exams and only just coping and i'm worried finding out will completely derail her. AIBU not to tell her how ill her grandad is until her exams are over?

You have done the right thing.
Make sure her form tutor and pastoral leader know so the school can give her support. Schools are used to this sort of thing.
And make sure she tells her friends so they can be there for her.

I think you did the right thing OP. My DD is doing her GCSEs as well. My dad became unwell a couple of months ago and I was so worried about her exams. When he died, she coped with it better than I expected, despite being really close. Your DD will be OK.

Heavily edited my post as I see you have told her.
Sending you love & peace as you navigate this difficult time.

ALSo tell the tutors - similar happened to me with my best friends husband - he went into intensive care on the morning of an exam - we were close - they just noted it to the exam board I think