AIBU to ask DD to wait three weeks for her 18th birthday present?

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DD will be 18 three weeks before her last A level exam.

She needs AAA for her first choice uni (which is where she is very keen to go) and is currently working slightly below that.

She has asked for a gaming laptop for her birthday present which we have agreed to (siblings had the same gift at 18 but this wasn't an issue as they have birthdays well after the exam season has finished).

Would you give it to her on her birthday - YABU

Or wait til the exams are finished - YANBU

(In case it is not clear, she wants it on her birthday. DH and I think she should wait and focus on her exams.)

I think your mistake was discussing it. I'd have just told her that yes she could have one & that we'd look at them after her exams were over.

YABU because you are treating her like a child that can't trusted, ironically on the very day she turns into a legal adult.

What if you gave it to her but agreed you'd come and nab it back off her after X period per day? I remember when I was 18 asking my mum to come and ask me what I had done each day, so I had some accountability. Would she be open to something similar so you weren't worrying it would be a total disaster?