AIBU to consider moving sooner as family pressures keep mounting?

[Timetomoveonoverseas]

DH is demoralised trying to keep a small company in the current market and having to make money for other people who don’t contribute much.

DD2 is trying to cope in an educational system that doesn’t suit.

My job is ok but uncertain due to upcoming boss changes. Wouldn’t say is the job of my dreams.

I find winters harder and harder each year.

DD1 is off to uni in September.

We could rent or sale house to relieve equity.

Trying to push another 3 years for more pension and DD2 to finish college. Or we could move when she finishes year 11 next year.

DD is 60, I am early 50s, not much mortgage left; but trying to get DD1 through uni and save a bit more pension. Not sure if it will be convenient for DD2, she doesn’t particularly love it here though.

It is becoming harder and harder to keep going. We are both from different continents; not family around.

Views?

Where to? What would you do in the new/different country. What are your expectations when you get there?

Move where?

Sounds like a move might be the right thing for you. Have you and your family had a sit down and talked about where ideally you would want to relocate to and what life might look like. Would you and your husband be looking at retirement or moving into different jobs? Would your youngest daughter be ok with moving?

Portugal. We have an apartment there. DH will retire, we will travel initially, I may take a part time job after. Not sure what DD2 could do there though; as it is more likely a retirement place.

We could also go to my home country for a year and do some travelling in latin America.

It sounds like it may be better to wait until DD is 18; may be a bit disruptive. She told me she would like to move to my home country for a year after she finishes college; so may have to wait 3 more years and keep pushing.

Every winter over since I have been living here I just want to scape; but our jobs are here so I just keep pushing; to not disrupt DC lives and because DH job is here.

It didn't sound workable for your youngest daughter unless there are appropriate study and/or work opportunities wherever you will be. Does she speak fluent Portuguese? I get that you want to go. But it sounds like you need to wait a few years.

She speaks Spanish; yes, does not sound like a good idea for DD2 unless she wants to start a new life in my home country; she feels more latin than English or DH’s country. It will suit me find as I got lots of friends still there but not sure about DH.

Perhaps might be a good idea to sit down as a family and talk this through, and give everyone the opportunity to talk about pros and cons of a move abroad.

If neither you or DH are from here why did you come ? ( not being funny, but there must have been a specific reason you both relocated from your home countries?) if you DH has his own business could he do that in your home country, or his?