AIBU in thinking my co-worker was trying to make me jealous?

[ThatLilacHedgehog]

There is a co worker, who slid in to my inbox the week after i joined the company, we spoke for a bit on Facebook, but it fizzled out, he then messaged a couple of weeks later asking how i am and how im finding the job, we spoke but he’s replies became dry and it gradually ended even though i showed interest in him.

He recently initiates conversations in work, always asking what time I’m staying until and plans etc, but he is friendly with everyone.

However today he was stood near my while i was working and he was speaking with his work friend about how he went on an amazing date yesterday and how lovely she was and it was like he wanted to make me aware…

I beg please no comments about workplace romances etc, my job is temporary and it’s not a big deal.

AIBU in thinking he done this to make me jealous?

or was he just trying to make me lose interest and show he’s not interested anymore?

Don’t defecate where you eat.

Amen to that @SittingNextToIt . Seriously OP don't do it! You'll cause yourself a whole world of shit. Keep it separate.

Why would he be trying to make you jealous if you showed interest in him, and he was the one who backed off?

Did he succeed?

Does it matter whether he was trying to make you jealous or not? He sounds like a twat. Just ignore it and continue to be polite and businesslike at work.

I mean, if you can be fucked to play games, send yourself a massive bunch of flowers with the note ‘Last night was amazing. I’ll be thinking of you all day. x’.

I think your overthinking this nothing at all jumps out

I think he's probably just friendly with everyone, and you've imagined a whole potential relationship in your head and you just ear-wigged a private conversation about his date

I agree with @rwalker. Just let it go and don’t respond any more to his questions beyond fine thanks and you?

He's a game player. There's still men around who will make bets on shagging the newbie/temp. If he isn't mature enough to ask you out, leave him alone. See what happens when you leave, he might message you, but again, he's a game player. If he wasn't he wouldn't be mentioning dating.

So do you recommend I act distant when he talks with me?

Love this phrase!

He's playing with you for his own ego....

I don't recommend you act distant, I recommend you BE distant.

Hes not worth your time, if it starts off this complicated it's never going to work out. Find someone who is interested in you & wants you to be interested in them.

x

If you're interested and he isn't, he has absolutely no reason to make you jealous.

Perhaps he really was just chatting to his work friend about his amazing date.

It's not impossible, is it? 🤷‍♂️

No, I recommend you accept he's not interested and just treat him like all your other co-workers.

What did he actually email you about when you joined the company? And have you ever hung out outside of work?

It just sounds like he welcomed you to the company, and then just normal chat. He hasn’t asked you out, or flirted with you or anything. I think you might have imagined all this.

He asked me if I’d be interested in “fun”

I recommend you trust him like any other colleague you have met... say hello, do your work, go home and don't interact on social media etc.

I can't even fathom why you'd do anything different? He's not interested...