AIBU to worry my nephew may be at risk abroad?

[supersop60]

Trigger warning - mention of suicide

I'm hoping to God I am wrong - I am worried that my nephew might harm himself. For years he’s had mental health problems and my sister has been supporting him financially and emotionally. He’s 28 and has been ‘ill’ since he was about 16 when his father had an affair.
He’s been verbally abusive and manipulative to my sister and she’s put up with it all this time. Recently diagnosed with ADHD and possible autism.
Anyway - for the last 10 weeks hes been seeing a therapist that he actually gets on with, had some EMDR, stopped smoking weed, and seems to be recovering.
Today he's gone to Spain by himself ( he’s barely left the house in ages) and sent a very cheerful video of his accommodation.
My sister is over the moon, firstly for his recovery, and secondly to have some peace and quiet for a few days.
In the back of my mind there are red flags.
Talk me down.

He blocked his mum and me from a number of channels because he didn’t want family commenting on his video release

I don’t quite know what you mean here, do you mean he’s blocked you on eg Instagram? Can you set up a new account using a different email address? Otherwise, I hope everything will be fine, I think you are doing all that you can at the moment 💐.

Just handholding. Hope you get good news soon.

It was IG.
I was mistaken before - he is on a family WA, and that’s where he sent his message, a video not a voicemail, but nothing for two days.

Do you have the address ?
I was going to suggest a check by the local police or a mental health organisation out there but he might be furious .
Does the family WA show when he was last online ?
It must be so hard just waiting supersop60 I really feel for you.
Praying he get in touch very soon.

Im pretty sure I know where he is. He’s glamping near Barcelona. I’m not on that WA group and I absolutely don’t want to alarm my sister.
I did consider contacting the camp site, but not sure what I’d say, and yes, he might be furious.
I’ve only posted on here because there is no one I can say this to IRL.
If the MN crowd think I’m mad, I can deal with that.

It’s not mad to worry. Equally, there is not much you can do. I’d send another positive message so he knows he is loved and has support. He may have chosen not to keep his phone on, but that is his choice.

I’ve just reread your original post about how he made great progress in recent months with his new therapist… so it could well be that this new happy mood is a genuine thing for him 🤞
Have you found out whether your sister has heard from him?
Xx

I have literally just had a voicemail from my sister. He’s spent all his time at the beach and turned his phone off for much of the time.
Such a relief!
Thanks to everyone who responded.

Great news!

Thanks for the update 🤗

Wonderful news !

That’s good hopefully he has turned a corner

That sounds promising for him - hopefully it will help his MH having a nice holiday with fresh air, sunshine and little to no tech!

Brilliant news, Op, and lovely that your nephew has you looking out for him.

Such a relief! Glad he’s okay and enjoying himself x

I am pleased. I understand why you were concerned 🙂

Wonderful news.

Thank you for sharing your positive update. I hope things get better for his mental health from now on and therefore the rest of the family can breathe a bit easier.

Thank you - it has been challenging, to say the least, for years. I posted on here about it a while back.
Hes off the weed, and that can only be a good thing.

I totally get you. In a similar position with my ds never know what’s going to happen next and live on tenterhooks

I’m so sorry to hear that.