AIBU to object to neighbour repeatedly staring through my window?

[Carlie97]

Each time he goes past (usually 2 to 4 times a day) he stares into my window. I've not had any aggro with him as such apart from him and his wife being noisy fuckers with noisy dogs and it started when I moved in that he would wave if I looked out at him. The issue is I've been here for a year now and because of the issues with the noise which he's aware of, I don't want him staring into my window each and every day. Im also regularly sat here in nightwear that I wouldn't be keen on anyone seeing me in. I will be going round to discuss this but first wanted opinions on whether I was BU.

It's not nice but there's nothing you can do about it, if they refuse to stop doing it.

I'd probably grab a dressing gown but it's a shame to feel forced into it.

But it's either that or close your blinds.

How far away is he when he does this?

You can buy this transparent stuff which sticks to the glass, means you can see out but nobody can see in. I was considering getting it once, I'll Google.

Nosy fucker. Close your blinds.

I have privacy window film up that allows me to see out but no one can see in.

I think some people look out if habit rather than interest

Google 'one way vision window film', there's loads.
Though obviously you shouldn't have to do it if your neighbour had more manners!

I sympathise, I would hate being observed when I thought I was in the privacy of my own home.

There is a reflective film you can buy for your windows which allows you to see out but not to see in. I would be buying it.

Thank you everyone. The film is a great idea. I was raging this morning when he stared in as usual. His dog had been barking all morning as usual (debating whether to speak to them about their shit handling of the barking or to go to the council) and he stares in my window every fucking time he goes past. I don't know what he's expecting seeing as he knows the incessant noise fucks me off no end - a friendly wave? I'm so, so tempted to give him the middle finger one of these days but instead I don't react, I just look away. They've been here around 40 years and I only moved in last summer so I do wonder if me complaining to the council about the dog noise (they argue late into the night too) will upset the apple cart and create bad neighbour relations.

I'm just wondering if it's an attempt at intimidation if you've complained to them about noise ?

I did wonder that too. He has done it since I moved in six months ago and at first it was a friendly wave. Since then I've complained at him about the dog barking and yet he still looks in every single time he goes past even though I don't wave because he's an antisocial twat. One day the nosy fucker will get the middle finger.

About six feet away from my window.

Privacy film or good old fashioned nets.

I got one way mirror film from amazon as the path to my front door goes past my bedroom. It was one you 'stick' to the window with distilled water, it's not adhesive.

Eta: it only works when the outside is brighter than the inside though, otherwise it works in reverse. Like when they switch the lights on in the observation room in cop shows!

Purlfrost! It’s cracking stuff 👍🏼😊
www.purlfrost.com/privacy-window-film/one-way-window-film/

We have had fancy pants window film from Brume, its very nice

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Thanks everyone. Is the privacy film easy to put on without any bubbles? From the inside can you tell there's privacy film?

Easy to apply. Instructions video is super clear.

If you choose a film that is not totally frosted but patterned you can see you through the little gaps in the pattern. But people cant see in.

Magic.

Hard to provide suggestions without knowing the layout and how he can actually walk past your window?

-Would large planters on either side of your window make his path clearer and more obvious he is stepping forward to look in your window?
-Net curtains for the top part so he'd have to bend down to look in
-Sprinkler or air horn which goes off when he approaches
-One way stick on film. It doesn't work at night though, only if the outside is lighter than inside
-Install a jack-in-the-box type puppet which you press as he nears the window which scares the sh!t out of him
-Get a cardboard cut out which stares facing outwards, even better if it suddenly appears from the side or below
-Does he live with anyone? Speak to them about your concerns for his mental health/memory as he is behaving oddly and staring in women's windows.

I have sash windows and have the film on the lower panel only. A pair of stilts would be needed to get above to the upper pane in which case it would be obvious voyeur obviously voyeuring.

I agree. I look at windows but I’m not looking in.

We used to have a neighbour who did it every time when we lived in a row of terraced houses and it really wound me up. Not just a glance, but really staring. There was little privacy there.

Get some window film, nets or curtains.
Honestly I'd probably be the same as the.neighbour! I'm very nosey and if somebody has a clear view into a room as I walk past I will definitely have a look.
Assuming you can see in from the street, it's rude if your neighbour is staring at you from your back garden but from the street it's really down to you to stop people seeing in!

I don't mind people glancing in as a rule but him after all the noise aggro he's failed to stop pisses me off. I don't know if he's looking for a friendly wave but he can piss right off!

I would not make another issue

how can we expect countries to stop war if we cant ?

have them in for a drink , take a cake around ? Wave , put up film that you see out fine but its mirrored for him , spikey bush? Chat to him and tell him about creepy neighbour who looks in everytime , stop giving a fuck , wear something outrageous, fuck the postman
put up a poster , plant on window sill