Friend's 'best friend' being weirdly possessive...

[Sadmum71]

My friend invited me to join her choir. I was nervous as I know her best friend goes to the choir and is jealous of our friendship. Still my friend said it would be fine and so I've given it a go. But BF was totally weird, didn't speak to me, only spoke to friend and made me feel invisible. It was like she was staking her claim. I enjoy the choir but I don't think I want to go if this is how it's going to be. So AIBU to stop going and what do I tell friend?

Tell her the BF is making it an uncomfortable environment and that she isnt welcoming or engaging, she is actively ignoring you and acting as though yiu are invisible. That having someone around them like that will mean other people gravitate away from her or any environment where she is.

Because its crazy.

Tell your friend the truth.

That you emjoyed the choir but her other friend's behaviour made you feel unwelcome and uncomfortable so you don't want to go again.

It is a bit crazy isn't it? I've never had a BEST friend so maybe I don't understand. Anyway, thanks for the advice, I've been stewing on it all week...

This is primary school level behaviour. Honestly, some people are so ridiculously territorial and insecure. Tell your friend that you enjoyed the choir, but that her friend behaved like a weirdo and she should really grow up.

Don't give up something you enjoy because of this strange woman. She must think she's still at primary school. There are bound to be others in the choir you get on with, can you strike up a conversation with others so you aren't reliant on your friend and her BF?

I've found it really difficult to integrate with anyone else as they assumed I'm with the other two and fine...