My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half. In most ways he has been a perfect boyfriend in that time, charming, lovely, goes above and beyond for me, treated me nicely.
Bit of a random back story. When we first got together he was married but splitting up from his wife and at the time he asked me to use Snapchat to communicate with him (we are in our 30s it’s absurd I know) because his ex wife was checking his phone etc while she still lived there.
Obviously we don’t use Snapchat now to communicate but I did see the icon on his phone the other day and asked him if he still uses it. It turns out there are 3 females on this Snapchat account that he keeps in contact with and has done for years. He has been honest with me in telling me this but only when I asked, I have been oblivious to this for a year and a half. Two are exes from years ago. One is a female friend that his ex wife didn’t like him talking to.
To start with when he told me it didn’t bother me as I thought well he’s been honest with me, told me when he could have covered it up. But the more I think about it the more bothered I am about it. It’s shady, and a bit underhand, also if they were just friends I don’t wouldn’t have a problem with them being friends if he was open about it from the start. Now I am questioning why would a man want to keep in contact with two exes but also the other female on Snapchat!? Would I be unreasonable to call him out on this now?
He is a builder by trade and has a lot of female clients who adore him (as I said he’s charming) and now I’m starting to feel insecure about the whole relationship because of the Snapchat situation.