To feel used by neighbour?

[dawneybaby]

Basically I became friends with my next door neighbour when she moved in.

She was a single parent with a month old baby at the time.
She would ask for advice on her baby (I have older kids) and we would chat by our front door's after the kids had gone to bed most nights.

Added each other as Facebook friends, go for tea at each others houses etc.
Do each others bins, collect parcels etc.
I even helped her with her daughters 1st birthday party and decorated the outside of my house as well.

Fast forward 18 months later it's all changed.
She started getting funny with me when her baby (now a toddler) began going to the dad's EOW and and she got more independence (started going out etc) and all of a sudden she had this cocky attitude.

She began seeing someone a few months back.

They would get back and be really loud by my front door at 2am drunk and waking my kids up.

I asked her in a nice way if they could the noise down ( I can hear her man talk word for word in my bedroom) and the music down and she got really funny.

It just seems as now she has a man she has cooled down and doesn't seem to bother with me anymore.

AIBU to fell like this?

When someone starts seeing someone it's all about the new gf/ bf and friends get left on the back burner.
Sounds like you was a lovely friend and neighbour, and helped her get her confidence back
Don't see it as you being used as she appreciated your support at the time and you helped her as you are a good person, now she's more confident she doesn't need your support as much , which has left you feeling shut out and a bit used, it's possible you thought of her as more of a friend as she did you - have you asked her if everything is ok as you don't see her as much
Some people are like this unfortunately, selfish and inconsiderate, especially if they haven't known you long . I would ask for a chat with her to clear the air regarding the noise
When/ if things get tough with her new man she'll be knocking on your door but I would keep my distance now , stay friendly but neighborly and don't pursue a friend ship

Some women are like this when it comes to me

Shes probably saying that youre jealous of her as well

She'll be back when he dumps her 🙄🙄

The mink attitude has probably been waiting in the wings and now she's got a'man'..out it pops

@Melonjuice
Thank you for your lovely reply.

Its a really strange atmosphere, she is quite short and abrupt now.

She was ill last week and was at her new man's and came back specifically to collect her bin and go back (she usually would of asked me) she put up a meme and I felt it was directed at me.

I will defo be stepping back and just remain civil with her and not engage beyond neighbourly issues.

No good deed goes unpunished. You have learned your lesson. Neighbours are best kept at arms length in the typically British "polite but distant" way.

Always a bit dicey getting too friendly with neighbours. You were there when she needed someone, but she doesn't need you anymore. Try to keep it civil, but move on yourself. The hearing stuff word for word is really anoying, but hopefully it will calm down, once the novelity wears off, or they split up.

What was the meme? If she's actually being unpleasant then I would just remain civil but distant and consider myself well shot of her.

Bizarre what was the meme?
It sounds like shes actively being mean / rude.

I also agree some women are bizarrely desperate for a man - any man.

I'd try and detach from her life / her comings and goings. A quick smile if you see her, but dont say hi first. Keep any conversation super short.

Oh come on OP, do not get dragged into the levels of pathetic it takes to care about internet memes. It's her loss. She had a good friend and neighbour and she's fucked it over some bloke.