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To not want to pay cleaner in cash?

442 replies

brokenteddychair · 02/05/2026 13:56

We have had a cleaner for about the last six months. She generally does a solid job and is reliable. I like her very much, she works hard and is trustworthy. She is currently the sole earner in her household as her husband doesn’t work (manual job). This is allegedly due to an injury but he is currently in his home country helping a family member with a renovation project so I’m a bit skeptical.

She has asked if we can start paying in cash “because the costs are burdening me and I need to ask clients to start paying in cash.”. This indicates to me that she is planning to under declare her income and therefore either not pay tax, claim benefits she isn’t actually entitled to, or both.

This is really conflicting me. I feel strongly that everyone should be paying their fair share of tax. I also don’t want the inconvenience of having to remember to get cash out every week. I have enough to do, that’s why I need to outsource help!

Would you suck it up or let her go?
YABU = cleaners are worth their weight in gold, just pay tax
YANBU = don’t be complicit in her fraud, find someone who will take bank transfer

OP posts:
Coconutter24 · 02/05/2026 15:24

StormInaDcup99 · 02/05/2026 14:02

I'd possibly consider offering to pay her in say tesco vouchers and keep them somewhere safe in the house so they are there for when you need to pay her

I’m sure the cleaners mortgage company will be ok with her paying it in Tesco vouchers!
I also don’t see how that helps with OPs problem of feeling the cleaner isn’t going to pay tax?

nutsfornuts · 02/05/2026 15:27

LeticiaMorales · 02/05/2026 14:19

Exactly.
Why are people judging this woman? Is it because she's working class? From overseas?
The immediate assumption of fraud!

I think because she’s been accepting bank transfer and is switching to cash because it’s going to save her money. The OP is assuming that the only way it saves her money is if she under declares.

Coconutter24 · 02/05/2026 15:27

I would just pay her in cash tbh, this government makes it so hard for self employed. However if you’re not comfortable with that then say no you’d prefer to keep paying bank transfer and understand if she needs to drop you as a client because of it. Chances are she won’t drop you and you’ll be able to carry on with bank transfer.

nutsfornuts · 02/05/2026 15:29

Notasbigasithink · 02/05/2026 15:16

Oh good lord not another 'I don't want to pay cash' bloody post 🙄🙄
You've clearly never been SE and had to absorb the ever rising costs of handling money! For your convenience (or mistrust) your cleaner will have to pay added banking charges just because you think he/she might be avoiding tax.
Maybe you should be more concerned with multi billion organisations such as Amazon etc who avoid paying it rather than (speculative) your lovely cleaner.
Get someone else of you're that bothered and pay the higher price that comes with bank transfers etc

Bank transfers don’t cost anything though, so unless she’s going round with a card machine then she’s not paying anything to handle the money.

TapestryNeedle · 02/05/2026 15:29

her morality does not depend on your decisions. Pay her as she requested, it is easy for her to have cash in hand, so be it. Get rid of her if you think she is a cheater.

ElectricSnail · 02/05/2026 15:30

catipuss · 02/05/2026 14:31

The cleaners tax affairs may not be the op's business, but if the cleaner is caught fiddling her tax the op will be under suspicion of collusion in the tax fraud and may find herself under investigation, which can be very invasive even if you are absolutely innocent. These sort of payments are often considered potential money laundering as well as fraud.

We had a neighbour who ran a shop, he paid everything he could in cash because it came straight out of the till and he wasn't declaring the income, it's all part of the black economy.

Ages ago when I could afford a cleaner, I always paid in cash. Can’t even remember why, maybe she asked me to. What would the police have said as they turned up my door, ‘We’re questioning you under suspicion of having paid with legal tender.’ Could I be under suspicion when buying groceries at the market with a ten pound note? Unless the Op is actually running the cleaning business with her cleaner, I think she can sleep easy.

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:31

HisNotHes · 02/05/2026 15:24

I think the fact that she was previously happy to be paid by bank transfer and that she has said “because the costs are burdening me and I need to ask clients to start paying in cash” is evidence enough. Why would clients paying in cash help her if not for the reason of under-declaring her earnings?

There are lots of reasons that don't involve tax fraud.

Maybe she gets charged for bank transfers.
Maybe her DH takes a percentage of her earnings, and she can keep cash a secret from him.
Maybe she finds it easier to budget with cash.
Maybe she pays for something else in cash herself.

Regardless, OP has no evidence of anything untoward happening. But of course because the cleaner is foreign and wants cash, she must be some tax-dodging criminal according to MN Wink

youalright · 02/05/2026 15:31

ChristmasCwtch · 02/05/2026 14:44

For every hour I employ her, I have to earn £24 to pay my cleaner £16.50.

Why should she then be exempt from paying tax!

Also, getting cash out every week is a pain in the ass, so it would be a hard no from me.

I also refuse to pay my nail guy in cash. He asks every time I go and I say no every time. Pretty sure they launder money too as they’ve got another salon they had fitted out years ago and keep empty of people!! So weird 😂

Edited

You sound like a 2 year old why should someone get something im not whaaaaaaa 😭😭😭

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:32

nutsfornuts · 02/05/2026 15:29

Bank transfers don’t cost anything though, so unless she’s going round with a card machine then she’s not paying anything to handle the money.

Some accounts do charge for bank transfers. If she's not from the UK, maybe she has a foreign account that costs her money?

MaidOfSteel · 02/05/2026 15:32

StormInaDcup99 · 02/05/2026 14:02

I'd possibly consider offering to pay her in say tesco vouchers and keep them somewhere safe in the house so they are there for when you need to pay her

Are you for real? That’s akin to the food stamps they have in America. How bloody patronising.

godmum56 · 02/05/2026 15:32

StormInaDcup99 · 02/05/2026 14:02

I'd possibly consider offering to pay her in say tesco vouchers and keep them somewhere safe in the house so they are there for when you need to pay her

you'd what???? that's incerdibly rude.

nutsfornuts · 02/05/2026 15:33

StormInaDcup99 · 02/05/2026 14:02

I'd possibly consider offering to pay her in say tesco vouchers and keep them somewhere safe in the house so they are there for when you need to pay her

Apart from this being an absolutely bonkers suggestion, how does it even solve the OP’s problem? It is neither more convenient than getting out cash, nor is it more likely the income will be declared. On the contrary, it sounds specifically like a way to avoid paying tax 😂

brokenteddychair · 02/05/2026 15:33

Confuserr · 02/05/2026 14:19

Indeed. It's tax evasion whoever is doing it. If she'd just said cash works better for her that's one thing, but she's essentially told OP she is going to end up with more money if she gets paid in cash - i.e. she's not going to declare it. I wouldn't be comfortable being part of that either and it would piss me off every Jan and July when I pay my own massive tax bill 😂

I haven’t caught up with reading all the replies yet but yes I think this is the bit that’s got me. She has told me she wants cash as she will be better off. So one way or another she is wanting to defraud the public purse and wants to make me complicit in that. If she had said cash is easier for her than that’s obviously a different story but she has TOLD ME.

OP posts:
godmum56 · 02/05/2026 15:34

youalright · 02/05/2026 15:31

You sound like a 2 year old why should someone get something im not whaaaaaaa 😭😭😭

so you don't mind being involved with a money launderer so long as you don't pay him in cash?

LeticiaMorales · 02/05/2026 15:34

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:32

Some accounts do charge for bank transfers. If she's not from the UK, maybe she has a foreign account that costs her money?

That's a good point.

Confuserr · 02/05/2026 15:35

Thechaseison71 · 02/05/2026 15:22

It was the article that said poor areas lol. And I lived in one before .

Why couldn't you pay your plumber by bank transfer then? Seeing as cash was so inconvenient

Pretty sure the Big Issue article I posted didn't use the phrase "dirt poor" which was your own delightful choice.

Yes. I would have preferred to pay plumber and everyone by bank transfers. It was inconvenient when they didn't facilitate that, and it meant I had to pay extra and also spend time fetching cash. Hence people like OP's cleaner can be inconveniencing their customers.

LeticiaMorales · 02/05/2026 15:35

brokenteddychair · 02/05/2026 15:33

I haven’t caught up with reading all the replies yet but yes I think this is the bit that’s got me. She has told me she wants cash as she will be better off. So one way or another she is wanting to defraud the public purse and wants to make me complicit in that. If she had said cash is easier for her than that’s obviously a different story but she has TOLD ME.

She's told you she'll be better off because she's avoiding tax?
She's actually said that?

nutsfornuts · 02/05/2026 15:35

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:32

Some accounts do charge for bank transfers. If she's not from the UK, maybe she has a foreign account that costs her money?

It’s easy and free to get a uk bank account. She lives here so her costs will be in £ and she needs money here, in the uk. It would be a ridiculous for her not to have a FREE uk bank account.

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:36

brokenteddychair · 02/05/2026 15:33

I haven’t caught up with reading all the replies yet but yes I think this is the bit that’s got me. She has told me she wants cash as she will be better off. So one way or another she is wanting to defraud the public purse and wants to make me complicit in that. If she had said cash is easier for her than that’s obviously a different story but she has TOLD ME.

No, you're assuming it's to "defraud the public purse".

Lots of people have given you reasons why she could want cash and be better off without fiddling the tax man.

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:37

nutsfornuts · 02/05/2026 15:35

It’s easy and free to get a uk bank account. She lives here so her costs will be in £ and she needs money here, in the uk. It would be a ridiculous for her not to have a FREE uk bank account.

She can only get one if she has legal residency. Maybe she doesn't yet.

Confuserr · 02/05/2026 15:41

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:37

She can only get one if she has legal residency. Maybe she doesn't yet.

That's a whole different kettle of illegal fish then! OP didn't say anything to suggest she's not a legal resident. Bank accounts, including small business accounts, are free. Absent any actual reason why cash would be more profitable than bank I (like OP) would assume she's planning to tax dodge by not declaring at least some of her income. And to the person who worked out it might "only" be about £2.5k a year she would be dodging - that's something like 30 pairs of free NHS kids glasses a year. Or a week's respite care for a severely disabled child.

sunshinestar1986 · 02/05/2026 15:42

catipuss · 02/05/2026 14:38

Try it and see, my FIL got investigated having paid someone a small amount in cash, the person was investigated and so were everyone they had dealt with.

That must've been shady dealings.
Not something as simple as legitimately paying for a service 🙄

Mulledjuice · 02/05/2026 15:42

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:10

OP has no evidence that the cleaner isn't paying her taxes so what would she be turning a blind eye to, exactly? Confused

The cleaner's words heavily imply this.

HisNotHes · 02/05/2026 15:44

sunflowersandsunsets · 02/05/2026 15:31

There are lots of reasons that don't involve tax fraud.

Maybe she gets charged for bank transfers.
Maybe her DH takes a percentage of her earnings, and she can keep cash a secret from him.
Maybe she finds it easier to budget with cash.
Maybe she pays for something else in cash herself.

Regardless, OP has no evidence of anything untoward happening. But of course because the cleaner is foreign and wants cash, she must be some tax-dodging criminal according to MN Wink

I think any person of any nationality who wants to be paid cash in hand is fairly likely to be tax dodging. I think the same of British people.

DreamyScroller · 02/05/2026 15:45

StormInaDcup99 · 02/05/2026 14:02

I'd possibly consider offering to pay her in say tesco vouchers and keep them somewhere safe in the house so they are there for when you need to pay her

As if.

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