AIBU to question my ex's motives over contact and maintenance?

[Dragracer]

Huge backstory but history of abuse from exH to me and DS.
He has been fighting for 5050 which I have been fighting against. Currently in. Aperiod of no contact due to major risks to DS. In court.

It has transpired he also has another child with another woman after DS who claims he abused her and he is refusing to have any contact with their child and refusing to pay child maintenance. He doesn't pay me maintenance either but pays me to do a remote job for him "as maintenance".

What do you think the motives/explanation is for being so attached to me all this time, being so demanding and controlling of me. Being so adamant to have 5050 of DS. While his other ex has got to walk away from him and he has no interested in ANYTHING to do with his other child.

Why have your claws so deep in one and throw another away.

I think it reflects badly on his character, commitment to parenting and motives but maybe I'm reading into it too much. If you agree, can you help explain it a way that will mean something to a judge?

Well if he's investing so much time and energy on gaining access to your son, he probably doesn't have much time/energy/money to pursue another claim! Does he have a longer relationship with your son? Was the relationship with this other woman short-lived?

If he was abusive towards you, I think it's a bad idea to work remotely for him as this gives him some control over you. I'd put in a CMS claim and leave it at that. Look for another job.