AIBU to think this level of drinking may be a problem?

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Hi all,
I don’t want to say who this is as I think it could influence the answers, but would you say someone having 1-2 drinks every night, plus 1-2 nights a week where they are going out and getting actually drunk, and a glass of wine or similar at lunch most but not all days, is a drinking problem?
AIBU to think it is?

You're talking about 40 evening units and another 10 at lunchtimes,so 50 units a week. Advisory limit for a man is 21 per week, less for a woman. Typically that person will be unfit to drive at least two mornings a week.

I left my ex when he drank a bottle of wine 6 evenings a week, three pints of beer on the seventh evening, and usually a pint or two on Sunday lunchtimes. Or 65- 70 units a week.

There were some evenings I drove ex home and he was so drunk I couldn't wake him and had to leave him in the car.

I couldn't allow him ever to drive baby ds or leave ds in his care. It was safer for ds & I to leave.

I should have left sooner. If this is your partner don't leave it too long.

Even without the getting drunk, this level of drinking is against the guidelines and is not ok. A lot of people on MN are very dismissive of the damage from alcohol, but the WHO is clear that the only safe level of drinking is none at all - the guidelines about limits are harm reduction measures, not a statement that it is ok or healthy.

I was similar to this at age 22-25. But it was also different times at the start of the 2000s pre 9/11. We often had wine with lunch (city, banking) and I drank in all bar one/pitcher and piano after work with colleagues on more occasions than I can count.

If I wasn't out with work I'd have a glass or two of wine with dinner every single day - after a long gym session in Holmes Place on the way home.

I occasionally got so drunk I ended up in a hotel and having to buy clothes and makeup on the way to work.

As I got older it just fell away. It was a novelty for a few years, felt grown up and exciting. Often the company was paying.

I'm now 48 and drink very little. I'm not sure at that age it is a massive problem. BUT it is if it affects her work. And she may find she regrets all the opportunities to progress in her career that get ruined by hangovers.

Apart from the daily drinking I think gping out a couple of times a week and getting drunk is quite common, I’d not be worried about a 25 year old doing that, the drinking seems to be social and a glass or two in the evening

im also unsure if your motivation is as clean here as you’re making out. Something feels off.