Context: DD's friend ( both 13) doesn't feel safe at home and has asked for my help. I've read messages on my DDs phone between them and the gf talks about wanting to kill herself, about her parents threatening to slap her, and about the gf witnessing domestic abuse between mum and dad. DDs friend seems in a dark place and I'm worried.
This morning my DD asked if her friend could come stay the night as her parents have taken away her shower and snack "privileges" for her behaviour and going on her devices in secret when she's on a ban. I was informed that dad knew about this plan to leave as he searched her bag this morning & so he picked the friend up early from school to prevent her from leaving. Said friend spent the school day in the school support hub after being sent in late to school after the bag search, so I'm not sure why they bothered sending her in.
The mum works in the field of social work and the dad used to which adds a complicated layer.
I've contacted school with the above information. They rang me but I missed the call. DDs friend is also drinking alcohol, smoking vapes, and generally just using unhealthy ways to cope. I've also told school this.
I'm now worried about DDs friend going into the long weekend and not knowing how she is. I'm considering a welfare check request but I'm also in two minds... should I mind my own business?