I have a partner that has one child (adult) daughter late 20s she is well putting it politely very demanding of his time, she has a good job partner of her own no real friends tbh but a good career and partner and home appears happy in herself etc, I came into her dad's life afew years ago we are now married set up home together, I absolutely step back and allow them time alone and to do activities together ,active involve her in our day to day lives, we get on OK etc but I have recently been falling out with my partner as tbh it's really reduculous how he is with her .
HE IS A good dad yes, but never says no to her she will turn up at house on her days off want lifts all over, demand dad takes her here there and every where, finds excuses to have him go to her house constantly rings and texts like a unusual high amount, I cannot expect her to change a relationship with her dad because we are together and I don't expect to I honestly take a step back but it's very strange, for context mum isn't on the scene so may exain abit why she is as she is, but a example of the way she is, she turns up wanting a lift home(we live in a busy town centre), and then insists dad drives her 30 mins for something takes her to supermarket and all sorts 3 hours and the where just nipping her home,
Every time she knows dad and I have a day off together and she is at home she's ringing and texting and finds a excuse to need him, I have no restrictions as to when she visits and I encourage them to do activities together but I am finding this is causing a huge wedge between us as we never get any "" us""time literally if she is off work she bombard our days, dad is retired I work still part time.
I have spoken to him and he just says she is demanding and agrees but he basically will not say no to her ever,
I absolutely believe she shoukd come first and her needs as his adult child but at what point does it stop struggling and finding it hard to see a future where I'm not getting annoyed at a constant basically adult demanding toddler!