To ask what tiny micro signs do you look for to see if someone fancies you?

[SlumChum]

Aside from someone saying 'I like you, let's date', what little tells do you look for to see if there is a burgeoning interest there? I don't mean psychology like turning their knees towards you, but the things you have genuinely noticed and that have been successful tells in your life.

For me, it's them dropping things into conversation that you've mentioned in the past. Or casually asking if you're going to the same event as them.

Let's help each other out, or feed each other's delulu!

Holing eye contact for just that little bit longer than normal ( but not stareing)
Remembering things you have said in passing.
Standing slightly closer than needed but not space invading. .

I think some of it depends on circumstances, nighbour, workmate, pub , school gate will offer different options and limitations.

Are you desperately hoping someone fancies you OP?

I don’t think remembering details means someone likes use, it’s wishful thinking. It just shows someone is interested in you (as a person) but not that they are attracted to you. I do it all the time.

Maybe for men it’s different as they’re more disinterested??

God, I’ve always been shit at this. I remember going to a party and afterwards a male friend told me two of his mates at the party really fancied me. I’d chatted with both of these and had no idea. I said this to him and said, ‘this makes me think my life has been a long list of men liking me, and me having no idea.’ And he replied, ‘I think it probably has been, yes’. In fact, just remembered that I had a male friend for years, and years later, when he had a girlfriend, he told me he’d fancied me in those years. Again, no idea.

I honestly haven’t got a clue. My experience has been that men make it very obvious when they fancy you, and if you’re still wondering, they probably like you but not like that.

Oh god, I've been with my friend all this week and I have the hugest crush on him, seriously. What i have learned this week about how he reacts when he sees someone he fancies cements the knowledge we like each other a lot - but for him, not like thst with me.

Life's a bitch!

Agree re PP the lingering eye contact - that’s an obvious giveaway.

Wanting to talk to you any chance they get.

Thoughtful gestures.

They usually make it very obvious; talking more to you than any other in a conversation, stealing looks at you more often, their face when they see you (vs when you see them see other people), sitting closer than is necessary, wanting to learn about you all the time to name a few

You are never left it any doubt though, that is the key bit. If you are not sure, then they don't.

I find when they stick their tongue in your ear then you know.

My past few dates. They all liked me (one kept trying to touch my leg but I wasn’t keen on him, he said he went to school with Kate Moss and she fancied him!). One of them admitted he was nervous when we met for coffee and then we went for one drink and I could tell he was interested, body language and easy to be with, held hands on way back to his car for a lift. Nice enough but wasn’t sure much in common. Current boyfriend I knew from about the first 30 mins to an hour that I liked him a lot (I thought I could introduce you to my brother and his family, he was just nice, easy to talk to and I fancied him!) just body language and eye contact. All internet dating through Bumble. If I’m in a pub at eg a music event and I see any single looking men, I’m just friendly and start conversations if I’m in the mood. If you don’t start something you’ll never know.

🤣

Neighbour and school gate are the worst places! How do you work out who’s single or not? Or if they actually want a relationship.

Bit risky in the office though 🤣🤣

An erection.

🤣

Well it’s a long time since I’ve been in that ‘fancying and being fancied and not attached’ stage of life. But I’d say some signs would include being caught looking for slightly longer than ‘normal’ or someone looking at you that way, meeting eyes across a crowded place and not immediately looking away but maybe giving a coy smile, flirting obviously especially being unable to keep a hint of suggestiveness/double entendre out of the conversation, finding excuses to be be near the person, looking slightly flushed, finding reasons to give little touches. Oh my I remember this. I fancied the pants off guy at work once and we were on a cinema trip (for work- long story!) and we were sat next to each other. I could think of nothing but the feel of his arm ever so slightly touching mine. I swear the hair on both our arms was standing on end for the entire movie and neither of us moved away.
Also taking genuine interest in you, actively listening and asking about about your life. Reading into everything they say as well.

Probably, who doesn’t? I love it when people fancy me. So much fun. Happily settled but we’re all animals.

Easiest way is to add them to Facebook and if they start hearting all your posts and especially photographs, that's a clue!

Otherwise, if they make excuses to talk to you often and are smiley. They look genuinely pleased to see you.

If I fancy someone, they absolutely know 😂 probably by the amount of times I touch their arm.

They will get your number and whatsapp you and probably send a dick pic sooner or later. Men are way less subtle than you might think.

And they say romance is dead

Their mate tell’s my mate.

It’s all in the eyes ….are they holding eye contact ? Are they subtly looking you up and down ?

I don’t know. It has been so long 😆