AIBU….again

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Partner works from home. Sometimes he finishes up early and nips off to the pub leaving me with the baby.
he doesn’t count it as family time and considering helping me/us as he’s on work hours…
AIBU to expect he’d help me/us when he clocks off work early? Bear in mind I am default parent an so lions share of baby care whilst in maternity leave.

Is he an alcoholic?

No but enjoys a drink

Yes but, you can enjoy doughnuts but he doesn't finish work early and nip out for doughnuts. There's got to be some reason why he feels the need to go to the pub during normal working hours.

How often?
What time and for how long for?
Do you have free time to do as you please?
My DH and I share the load… we both plan when we want to exercise, see friends etc so it’s fair.
Could you do this?

Why can't you and baby go to the pub with him? Assuming it's not a dive bar. Make the most of your mat leave, you could go for lunch as well.

Quite often. Drinks 3 times a week minimum.
i often join but i have to do all the heavy lifting around it - planning baby food/snacks/bags.
I don’t want to always drink and no when it impacts the baby’s routine, every so often is fine.
my issue more lies with clocking off and not even considering I need help/could do with a spare pair of hands.
i don’t get much ‘me’ time as partner doesn’t like planning and is more as and when which is frustrating…

my issue more lies with clocking off and not even considering I need help/could do with a spare pair of hands

You need to discuss this with him, not be fobbed off with 'work hours'. If he's not working, it's not work hours. Why is he not a parent or a supportive partner?