How would you react if you found out your ExH is a peado?

[Sparklesbigtoe]

What would your reaction be if you found out your ex-husband, who you were married to for 20 years (and separated 8 years ago) had been arrested for sexually abusing his new partner’s teenage daughter, and when you met him you had 3 daughters who were 13, 12 and 9? If you couldn’t, in a million years imagining him doing anything like that (you separated because you drifted apart) what would you do? Just think “oh dear, how awful for them all” (you’re not in contact with him and haven’t been since you separated) or, despite believing in his innocence, would you still be straight on the phone to your now grown-up daughters (all of whom you have a pretty good relationship with) to ask if their stepdad ever sexually abused them? Just to make 100% sure..?

Yanbu.
Your mother clearly was one of those women who placed her need for a man above all else.
Men like him know that and seek them out.

A normal mother would be straight on to her children to check it out.
You have every right to be appalled and angry.

I know this because my neighbours 18 year old granddaughter is close friends with the daughter of a man who has been charged for abusing a young girl.
Their reaction was to check immediately. Fortunately absolutely nothing occurred.

In your place I would be contacting the police and offering your thoughts on him and that of your sisters. It may be of help.